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Internet dating dilemma wwyd?

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committee · 05/03/2013 10:38

After 5 years of being single with 2 DC, I finally plucked up the courage to join an internet dating site. I submitted a profile initially with no photo and with very brief details and joined (not having paid membership). I looked at my matches and added a few men to my favourites and was really surprised to receive a message from one who I really liked the look of. However, as I did not have paid membership I could not reply to the message other than a brief one-liner to say that I would be back in touch once I had subscribed.

Unfortunately I wasn't able to join for another 6 weeks, due to lack of funds. I updated my profile with photos etc. I did then contact him again, with apologies for the delay. This time I get a one-liner back saying his subscription had expired and that he would be in touch once he had re-subscribed!

As it's become a situation of never the twain shall meet should I contact him again, with an email address (set up only for on-line dating) suggesting he could contact me on that instead or would that come across as too desperate? Or do you think he has lost interest and I should leave things until or if he contacts me?

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howdidithappen · 05/03/2013 10:44

Try and send an email address. I had this on Guardian Soulmates, however it blocked the senders email address :(

Ships that pass in the night.

Lovingfreedom · 05/03/2013 10:45

Join a free site instead. OKCupid is one.

committee · 05/03/2013 11:00

Many thanks for the replies. I think that once you are a paid member I think you can send contact details although you can't put them in your profile.

He is still looking at the site and I certainly would not expect him to re-join just so he can contact me, it is quite a lot of money and I suppose it has to be worth his while, so I guess that is why he is still looking at the site. I do really like him though...

I have only joined for 3 months and I am not sure if I will continue with it to be honest. The fear of rejection and all that.

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