Hard times

[mummytasha11]

Hi everyone

Needed to vent.

Relationship ended after 9 years on Saturday..we have a 2 year old ds and we were due to get married in August. I went and picked my wedding dress 2 weeks ago and thought everything was wonderful in our life.

Turns out he thinks he is missing something in life and feels awkward being at home ( he works away mon/fri)

He moved his stuff out on Saturday and we have hardly spoke since. He cannot give any reasons and says he still loves me and always will.

I'm so confused and heartbroken i don't know how to go on...

Poor ds knows something is up and im struggling to carry on at the minute.

Finding the no communication bit hard...i am so used to talking to him every day seeing if he's ok, how works been and him asking how our ds is and now nothing...

Tell me it gets easier

There is probably an OW - with him working away, there is plenty of time and opportunities. He has been very cruel - you must be torturing yourself trying to understand what went wrong.

You best option is to cut all ties and only communicate re child access and get RL support from friends and family.

... He can obviously just switch off from me and ds and carry on with his new single life while I'm here struggling on.
Makes me so upset,mad,angry,sad.

He's not going to see ds till the end of march now but I thought he would like to know how he is or how I am?

I'm kidding myself to think he cares because he says he does

Yup, actions speak louder than words.

It is awful how these men can just switch off but he has probably been detaching for some time now and you are still catching up.