Don't want to drip feed but don't want to write too long a post either...
After nearly 20 yrs my husband and I have decided to separate. Some of you may have read previous threads of mine. The long and short is that things have been going downhill for a couple of years and I have had an affair which my husband knows about (I told him). We have had counselling individually and together but I don't feel there is any change in the way I feel about him. And although my affair is over I still have strong feelings for the OM.
Right now I feel that the only way for there to be any chance of rekindling anything is some time apart. But am looking for suggestions of how this works in terms of contact rather than about logistics please or about whether or not we should.
Should we have a regular 'date' night. Or 'family' time? We want to make it a constructive time if that is possible.
How much should we speak? Etc.
What have other people found to work, both in terms of helping to bring back together, or realising the end is nigh. And of course in making it as 'un' confusing as possible for the kids.
Thank you for any suggestions of how we manage our time apart.