Could you stay in a relationship with a guy that didn't want your child. I mean actually wanting you to terminate?
I feel im in a terrible situation, I ended up having the termination 2 years ago and even though it was such an awful experience i was so heartbroke my partner stated firmly..even yelling at me down the phone that he didnt want another child. The reason was he said is because he didn't want it to cause trouble between himself and his ex( he has a child from a previous relationship and she was denying him access) It was the worst time of my life, i felt so scared and alone but I picked myself up and moved on with my life for the sake of my older children. (from my ex husband). we stayed together after the termination. (Something now i wished i hadn't done).
Last year he gained access to his daughter for the first time and now i get to see how he treats his little girl, he is amazing with her, a supportive loving dad but watching that kills me!! for me it's brought up feelings of jealousy and resentment how he loves this child so much yet could't face having ours. To make matters worse he is now 2 years later asking to have a child with me! but even though i would love a child with him there is no way i would go down that route with him again. I feel so hurt and bitter and i hate it. I feel he's totally messing with my head!! I do love him but i always feel like the bottom line is he didn't love me enough to have that child with me. We talk, argue, sometimes even scream and shout about it to each other about how im feeling and it helps at first to clear the air a little but its only a matter of weeks..sometimes days..before im back to feeling so angry and depressed about it. I wondering whether it would be easier to leave the whe relationship rather than have to face him with his child everyweek. ....i sound so bitter...