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Feel like crap!

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snotsallover · 03/03/2013 20:08

God knows why i feel like this when i should be jumping for joy,split up with dp last month because he was a complete shit lied all the time neva spent anytime with me or dcs and im almost 100% sure he was cheating.
so why is it i'm sitting here in floods of tears over him whilst he is out every night what got me today is that i saw a pic of him on fb with another woman and it killed me i don't even know what the point of this post is i think i just need to write it down as i am a one man band and have nobody in rl life to talk to.

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SPBInDisguise · 03/03/2013 20:09

Well done. She (the woman you saw) will probably be in this situation sooner, or if she's unlucky, later

rightchoice2 · 03/03/2013 20:16

You will be jumping for joy once you have rebuilt your life. Let go of the past and try not to imagine his life is perfect. Remember all the things you promised you would do once you had the freedom You now have freedom which is the most precious gift of all time. Good luck

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snotsallover · 03/03/2013 20:25

you see thats the thing i don't have alot of freedom and was relying on him even though he didn't do much he was the only one i could get to have dcs if i wanted to go anywhere.

I know his life isn't perfect in anyway he has nothing going for him it may sound nasty but its true me and dcs were all he had that was good and he messed up big time he's completley fake puts on a front pretending to live the high life and tthose women are welcome to him.

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izzyizin · 03/03/2013 20:35

Is he the father of your dc?

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snotsallover · 03/03/2013 20:39

yes he is

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rightchoice2 · 03/03/2013 20:39

Sometimes our tears are for something we have never had rather than for something lost. It sounds like you have had a raw deal. How old are your DC?

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snotsallover · 03/03/2013 21:18

i think maybe your right we made alot of plans and through him and his selfishness that will never happen.
and dcs are two.

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rightchoice2 · 03/03/2013 21:34

With little ones so young it must feel daunting, but be strong. Being lied to and someone making empty promises and then walking away from responsibilities like this is not easy. Allow yourself time to heal. I don't recommend trying to see what he is up to on FB though, tempting as it might be. You need time to heal.

Letting go and moving on is what you need, in time that will happen.

Be kind to yourself, little treats and papering when you can and when you have the energy.

See if there are any other lone mums around who you might be able to have a coffee with.

Get out when you can for walks, concentrate on you and the little ones. Good luck, be brave. You might have had a lucky escape.

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