Can you remind me how to flirt again please?

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Have just realised that there is absolutely NO romance left in my marriage and also realised that it needs sorting fast. I'm feeling a bit woe is me, birthday today and without realising it I obviously wanted a fuss....didn't get it and feel really low. Spoilt brat alert. We are going out for birthday tea, Dc's and my Mum but tbh we go out every Sunday for food.

My DH is a lovely man, fantastic father blah blah blah.. We have 2 young children 2.5 and 4 months, we are knackered really really exhausted. We haven't had sex since.... I can't even tell you. Although I did throw in to conversation that I'm going to go to family planning next week to see about coil fitting.

Anyway I'd like to start flirting again butjust can't bloody remember how. Any suggestions.

Please excuse rubbish phone typing.

I think flirting is too one-sided for this problem which seems to be a lack of basic physical affection. Sex aside, when was the last time you held hands in the street, snuggled on the sofa, took an afternoon off to spend it in bed, sent some sexy texts ... all the silly intimate things couples do when they first get together? Do you ever reminisce about when you first met.. what first attracted you to each other?

So you need to prioritise some time for yourselves to talk about getting the intimacy back and then consciously making an effort to do it. Do you have friends/family that can take the DCs for a period of time? Good luck

Cogito, thank you so much for replying and everything you say is so true. We're lucky in that we've got family who will happily look after the girls but the youngest is EBF, feeds frequently and won't take a bottle (stubborn little Madam) but I'm going to look on here today for some fab MN tips on conquering that one.

I have had a quick chat with hubby today saying I've got a touch of baby blues and am feeling down and also worried that we've got no spark so will talk some more tonight and if I can get DD2 off my boob for half an hour will instigate some cuddles and hand holding.

Thanks again for taking the time to respond, feeling a bit blubbery and could have had a little tear at your kindness.

Cogito, that was lovely advice. Name changea, hope it all goes well tonight!