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My Date gone cold all of a sudden what do you think?

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Honeysucklerose · 03/03/2013 08:27

Hi had 2 lovely dates with nice guy , just coffee then lunch , he has been texting every morning and night and sometimes would phone for a friendly chat , I thought all was going well , we talked about meeting up this weekend for another date , Friday night nothing no text as he usually does , Saturday morning nothing , so what has happened has he meet someone else?, just wish he would tell and we can part as friends as I really liked him and he seemed to like me .Oh met him online does this explain things and is this what people normally do I am not familiar with it all .

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AuntieStella · 03/03/2013 08:29

He's not that into you.

Don't wait for a call for closure, just move on.

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Honeysucklerose · 03/03/2013 08:32

Yep I thought so he just seemed so keen at first and kept sending me things on my email everyday, men !.

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overmydeadbody · 03/03/2013 08:32

Yep he's just not that into you.

Move on.

Normal with online dating really, two dates and a few texts and phone calls is what you do to see if you like someone enough to persue it further. If you decide against that person, you judt stop communication. That's what he's done.

Dn't spend any more time thinking about it.

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Honeysucklerose · 03/03/2013 08:34

I see right thanks for explaining if god I feel naive think I will give it a miss this online thing .

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OhToBeCleo · 03/03/2013 08:36

The thing to remember with online dating is that you won't be the only one he's having coffees and lunches with - especially in the 'just get to know' stages. He may have liked you a lot - but he clearly liked someone else more.

Or he's married and got cold feet about the betrayal. I've encountered one of those!

Either way move on.

Bossybritches22 · 03/03/2013 08:39

Bloody rude but yes that seems to be the case with online dating, sadly.

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Honeysucklerose · 03/03/2013 08:40

Yes I did realise I was not the only one really just um been along time since I had a date it was fun but hey ho that is life I guess if you go down that road think I will just stick to my knitting lol thanks anyway .

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Honeysucklerose · 03/03/2013 08:41

Thats what I thought Bossybritches rude where are peoples manners , I mean I would never treat anyone like that so why do some people think they can get away with it !

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happyinherts · 03/03/2013 08:41

Whether you date someone from an online site or meet someone from a real life situation, this can still happen so don't automatically knock out online dating. Fact is, it's rude and just plain bad manners to say to someone, "I don't see a future for this. Good luck", etc.

I would say that the internet does encourage this kind of behaviour as there's the kind of candy shop mentality that there's available women to test out and it's a little easier.

One thing you must not do is take this personally. There is nothing the matter with you and you will find someone better. This man has the problem in that he isn't prepared to give things a further go. Don't lose sleep, self esteem and confidence over this - chalk it up to experience and go find the one who will treat like you as you deserve.

OhToBeCleo · 03/03/2013 08:42

Don't give up Honey, there are some good guys online. Just keep it in perspective and enjoy the dates without reading things into the early stages.

Walkacrossthesand · 03/03/2013 08:44

As above, but before you close the door on thinking about it, take a moment to decide what your stance will be if he suddenly starts up contact again after a silence of days or weeks. That happens too, I gather, often because the ANOther he dated for a bit didn't work out/didn't put out. I like to think I would refuse on the basis of his utter rudeness, but if you haven't thought about it, it might catch you on the hop.

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Honeysucklerose · 03/03/2013 08:47

Thanks Happyinherts , hard not to take it personally but I am a big girl and will not loose any sleep over it , and thanks for your kind words and in hindsight I can see he was not for me.

OhtobeCleo, many thanks as well yea need to keep perspective your right wil rethink my options ,but will take a break for just now lfe is so busy anyway difficult finding time to fit a man around my life .

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Honeysucklerose · 03/03/2013 08:51

Walkacross the sand you are dead right it had crossed my mind about him doing exactly this , ad there is NO way i would give him an inch let alone another date but a Big Thankyou for mentioning it to me that was so kind as is all you girls on MN it is such a help , keeps me on the straight and narrow !

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Feelingpissedoff · 03/03/2013 10:33

Online dating can be a little like looking for a job. Sometimes they find a better fit & don't let you know. Don't give up,just be aware it happens. Have fun though & good luck.

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Honeysucklerose · 04/03/2013 05:39

Thanks feelingpissed off

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Lovingfreedom · 04/03/2013 08:13

His loss....next!!

VoiceofUnreason · 04/03/2013 08:18

So, when he didn't text on Friday morning as usual, did you make the effort to text him? Same on Saturday morning?

TheUndesireable · 04/03/2013 09:34

Maybe he was waiting to see if you were into him, if he was the one always texting.

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