I've been with my husband for 9 years and he is a good, kind man and I love him very much. However, he can be quite arrogant at times and has upset myself and several others in the past by acting as though he is more important than them, sarcastic put-downs etc.
Anyway, I feel taken for granted at times, and if there is something to be done in the house etc he tends to just assume I'll do it. His dad's birthday is next week, and as usual it was down to me (& his sister) to remind him. I bought a card yesterday for his dad (cos he wouldn't have) - no mention, or thanks or anything. Same with Mother's Day - I buy his mum's card and he can't even bothered to arrange her present.
He works full time and earns MUCH more than me, so I am cared for financially. Recently, we both decided that I should take on a part time job (was a good match for me), but I am also in the process of trying to set up my own business too. I therefore, am happy with the arrangement that I would do pretty much all the cooking/ cleaning/ walk the dogs etc (I did anyway when I was full time tbh).
Then today, I was in the middle of painting one of the bedrooms, and he came to ask 'do we have a pencil', 'where do we keep them' etc. I told him they were in the drawer in the bedroom where they've always been... 'where's that?' I did not want to leave off what I was doing, so in choice words I told him that he should work it out for himself. This resulted in a strop from him and then I got annoyed and started shouting.
I know this might sound trivial, but I honestly feel that he treats me like his mother/ employee half the time. If he DOES do anything round the house etc he tells me that he has done dinner/ hoovered etc FOR ME! It's not FOR ME, it's his house too!
Sorry if this sounds a bit muddled but I just feel like he sometimes just doesn't value me & just assumes that I'll sort out anything that needs doing (other than work/ paying the bills.