What advice can I give to Dsis?

[Tribblewithoutacause]

Just spoken to her and she has told me that her DP (of eight or nine years) has been a bit off with her recently. She challenged him on this, and he has told her that he doesn't see their relationship going anywhere, that he doesn't want to get married or have children. This has obviously come as a bit of a shock to her.

She has told him that she loves him and wants to be with him, but she doesn't really know what to do beyond that. From what she said, her DP doesn't want to engage with her in conversation. She says he seems depressed as well and he says that he wants to be left alone.

What advice can I give her? I've told her that she needs to think about what she wants out of the relationship, and to not compromise as otherwise she'll resent him.

Anyone got any wise words?

I think he is ending the relationship and she will have to accept it, even though she may love him and desperately want it to carry on. It's a bitter pill and one that many of us have to take.

Urge her not to drag it out and reassure her that you'll be there to pick up the pieces.

He's older than her and I wondered if he was having a slight panic about it, but yes you may be right. If he isn't going to engage with her, that's a pretty clear message isn't it.