advice please - Am I making too much of this?

[doinmybest]

Sorry if this seems petty but its the latest in a long line of digs from my stbxh. we have known each other 25 yrs married for 20 so we have mutual friends. xh e mailed me yesterday to tell me a friends dad had passed away. very sad news. We are godparents to her children but the only contact I have these days is through facebook so I sent a private message to say so sorry to hear about grandad lots of love etc.
All hell has broken lose. I received a vile text late last night off stbxh - next time you want to publish other peoples sad news on FB stop and think if the family have been told. How inconsiderate I am etc.
My text back was on the lines of who do you think you are telling me whats right and wrong ( he left for OW ) I didnt publish it get your facts straight etc.
Ive woken this morning even more annoyed that he both had the cheek to pull me on wrong facts but also that he thinks I am that insensitive.
Advice please do I email him today and tell him what I think or do I let it go?

Let it lie. He is a twat and he doesn't deserve your time and consideration. Who cares what he thinks? - He will never see you or himself as you really are.

Did your godchild know her Grandad had died?

It was the godchild you messaged?

First, he did not tell you it was confidential; second, if news of death was circulating amongst general friend's circle, it would be logical to assume FB world new, too. He is an ass.
V common STBXH technique to accuse you of something, blow it all out of proportion. Designed to put you on defensive. Ignore.

Amber - he had been in hosp for a while but apparantly hadnt been told he'd died and yes it was godchild I messaged.
And yes Moanranger exactly. If your friends ex wife knows then surely its reasonable to assume her kids know before me!
tbh I dont know why he told me. He tells me nothing else about his own family

So it was your message that informed him of his grandads death?

If so, I can see why the upset, but stbxh probably shouldnt have been blabbing without being sure that everyone who needed to be told had been told.

Tbh I would be way more upset that I had accidentally informed my godchild than stewing over how annoying my ex was.

I am a bit nonplussed that the late night text and your ex being a twat is the bit you are annoyed about.

That's ridiculous! Of course you would have assumed that everyone knew. I would have done exactly the same. Your stbxh is a knob.

pagwatch Im sorry you are nonplussed but of course I am upset over that . That is something I feel badly about and I can apologise for that and explain my reason for contacting them. The reason I wanted to talk about my stbxh is because its a relationship board and not a 'help Ive upset my godchild' board
sorry to stew thank you all for your comments

Ok. I was trying find out if there was a bigger issue than the details suggested. It just seemed odd to me. I wasn't criticising you I was nonplussed - unsure how to react/respond. You are clearly upset that I was trying to understand so I am sorry my angle of question had that effect on you.

Although to be honest you could just have explained or ignored me rather than your rather illogical sarcasm. You presumeably have a relationship with your godchild