Just told my husband I am leaving him

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After endless arguments and much thinking, I told my husband I am leaving him. Terrified at the thought of life on my own as full time professional woman plus looking after my 3 year old son. The saddest thing is that I know my son will be devastated. I would have stayed for his sake but the almost daily arguments are making life unbearable and my son is now able to pick up on the tension so no longer protecting him with the illusion that we are a family.
Because of my job I will have to relocate to Tunbridge Wells as near to work and will have to get myself a place near a good school so my son won't miss out on good education. It feels like my life has been turned upside down...
I hope I am making the right decision and that I don't give in.
Oh dear!!!!

i left my ex h when dd1 was 5. we were both miserable and to be honest I think our relationship was having a toxic effect on our dd. I have never regretted it. I am now with DP. We have been together for 8 years and have dd2. I am happier now than I ever was with ex DH. The motto that "life is too short" is true in my case.....

I have never believed that staying in a relationship for the sake of children is a good thing.....

Someone will be along to help you with the important stuff soon but for now I just want to say that you are doing a brave thing.
Leaving is hard but well worth it. Children do adjust. It will all get better.
I'm two years on from where you are now and my life is happier and fulfilled. My children are mostly happy and see their dad when they want. It takes time to put together a live for yourself again but you are your own person and have a lovely little family with your son.
It really does get better