Sorry to have taken so long to get back on; have been hiding in my room today, and the iPad has been having problems getting on to MN. Thank you all. I will try to answer everything. If I miss anything, and you really want to know, please post again.
What happens when I tell her I'm studying? She tiptoes around the kitchen very loudly, going "sssh, sssh, yes sorry, you're studying" tapping her finger to her lips. If she does that once more I will probably actually kill her!
It is really hard to study elsewhere. I need proper back support so can't just sit on my bed, and can't write on my lap, balance everything blah blah blah, though I've had a pretty good try in my room today. Trouble is there's a lot of documentation: the texts, the Exercise books, the handbook, notepaper, Tutorial notes, calculator, geometry set, pens, pencil, rubber etc. I don't move too well seated at a table due to MS so with that lot spread around on the bed (with cats, cup of tea, iPad) it's a nightmare. And why should I have to hide in my tiny dark bedroom when I should be able to sit at a large table in my bright, filled-with-light kitchen. Well, yes, I know why.
Things have been said to her kindly and she has not once taken them seriously, or acted upon them. She is the only person in her universe who matters, I think. I just wish she'd just go up one floor and talk to dh, he is her brother after all, and he's just reading a book most of the time.
Snorbs, I know I mustn't let the fear of her drinking again stop me from doing normal things, and tbh I can honestly say that if she wants to drink then let her. It's just that if she starts as a result of something I've said to her, then DH will blame me......
I have decided that I will no longer pull my punches, but tell her how rude it is to behave how she does (it's not just the studying, it's a load of other things too). I just can't be bothered with her any more (why am I cooking for her every day? She has a perfectly good kitchen upstairs - my mum cooked for herself for years up there. SIL barely manages to take her plate from the table to the dishwasher).
Someone asked me why she's still here. Because she's a thoroughly chaotic idiot who has (dis)organised her life in such a way that her bloody trailer still isn't ready. But as my brother has just been made redundant and finishes work at the end of next month, will not be able to continue to pay the rent on his flat and will need a place to live, all of which is no fault of his own, and as he has been giving me money for years every month so we could continue to afford to live in this house and for various other reasons, he will be moving in and SIL has been told (by DH) that she has to be gone before he needs the place.
Yes, I needed a rant, but I wanted advice too! 