Think I just found out my dad is having an affair.

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We live very close to my parents. Mum was looking after my dog today. When I went to pick her up mum was clearly very upset. Wouldn't let me passed the door. Wouldn't tell me what was wrong. So I went to see my dad who was working outside. He tells me that mum overheard him talking to someone on the phone and he had accidentally ended the call with " see you soon. Love you." He promised me that it was just a slip of the tongue and that he didn't even know the person on the phone.

I went home and called my mum. She still couldn't really talk to me but said that dad had told her a different story and that it was all "bull." She is too churned up to talk about it.

So it hasn't actually be said but I think it's reasonably clear that dad has just been caught out! It's his bloody 70th birthday next month.

I feel sick. No idea what to do to help my mum. Feel a bit panicky about everything that lies ahead.

What can I do to help?

Does your Dad end phone calls in this way to you, or others? Have you ever had any inkling that he might be having an affair/affairs in the past?

He doesn't usually end phone call like that no. He has gone away on business a lot throughout my life and had continued to go away regularly even though he has taken a step back work wise. My parents have never had the best relationship. Lots of arguments when we were young, separate rooms etc, though in recent years things seemed better.

He was due to go away tomorrow...

It's your dps private business and there's nothing you can do unless one or both of them take you into their confidence.

One thing I would caution you against is jumping to conclusions - on occasions when I've been away with the fairies particularly preoccupied with other matters while talking on the phone, I've been known to say 'see ya soon, love ya' or similar when ending calls to colleagues and tradespeople

Yes I know and that's what I thought at first but mum is devastated so must be more to it.

Yes it's their business. Just feel useless! We have a family business too so it could all get very very messy.

Love my dad but feels so so sad for mum.

Torn.

I don't believe for a second your dad didn't know the person on the phone as you tend not to be so relaxed in conversation with a stranger.
However whither he is or not having an affair l just don't know but in view of him supposedly going away tomorrow it does seems possible

Poor you. Just give your mum a hug and hope it's nothing. There is nothing you can do. If he's going to fuck things up, then he will. Being 70 won't stop him. And maybe his story was true.

It is possible he's telling the truth, I called my mum darling once, but your mum obviously doesn't believe him. I can't see anything you can do though and TBH I think you shouldn't be too quick to judge your dad, even if it's true. There are always two sides to a story and he's still your dad.

Yes, I guess I shall just wait to see what tomorrow brings and hope for the best.