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I feel guilty even though nothing happened

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makingdoo · 25/02/2013 18:14

I've name changed. I was away with work colleagues st the weekend and we went out for a few drinks. One of my colleagues is younger than me, tall, slim and stunning. A real head turner. I'm fairly attractive but not a head turner. Anyway -

In a bar and this good looking lad comes over to talk to us. I immediately assumed he was interested in my friend. Turns out he wasn't, he wanted to talk to me.

He was lovely. Really witty, chatty and handsome. I really enjoyed his company and he happily chatted with me and my friends for most if the night.

I made it clear I am married and he accepted that. Still stayed to talk and I admit I was extremely flattered and flirted with him.

If he had made a move I'd probably would've run a mile. But in my mind I was imagining what it would be like to be with him. I've thought about him a lot since then. I haven't mentioned it to DH.

I just feel really guilty for allowing myself to fantasise in my head about a total stranger. I love my DH and wouldn't cheat on him and wouldn't hurt him.

It's left me very confused.

OP posts:
Lavenderhoney · 25/02/2013 19:14

You had a nice night, got chatted up, very sensibly did nothing. He knows you are married but he can still talk to you and enjoy your company.

No good will come of this if you take it anywhere, ie flirting in the office. Are you bored at home?

ParsleyTheLioness · 25/02/2013 19:14

All I will say is, you are married, not dead! Stop beating yourself up.

AnyFucker · 25/02/2013 19:17

Get over it, love, really

Being married doesn't mean your life is over

Just don't take it any further than one evening of flirty chat

Fgs,, don't start trying to convince yourself there is something wrong with your marriage

makingdoo · 25/02/2013 19:21

Thanks for the replies.

He was a random stranger not a work colleague.

I'm happy in my marriage although I think we've slipped into a pattern and could do with being more spontaneous!

I think I feel guilty because I've been thinking about him since Saturday night. Just fantasising in my mind what could have happened. But as you say I'm only human and know I'd never cheat.

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ParsleyTheLioness · 25/02/2013 20:01

Thinking it = ok. Doing something about it with him = not ok!

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