Feeling guilty

[marciamac]

My h and I were rowing today and it got very heated he has been pushing and pushing me on a certain subject and I flipped. He threatened me and threw a bottle of juice in my face.

Our 10 yr old was upstairs and heard everything Im so ashamed and worried as to how it has affected her. I've tried to keep the rest of the day normal for her but I know it has upset her. She came to me after and said that if I feel threatened I should call the police and I am heartbroken at making my daughter feel this. She is so young and I have set her such a bad example.

Out of the mouths of babes...

How long has this been going on and what do you intend to do about it?

For your child to say that would be the last straw for me I'm afraid.

The truth is I dont know. Ive had enough. The violence is infrequent but Ive really had enough with being threatened and blamed for everything.

You don't have to live like this and your dc don't deserve to live in a warzone.

Make contact with Women's Aid here: www.womensaid.org.uk and get yourself and your dc away from your abusive and violent h as soon as possible.

Ah, he's one of those 'Everything that goes wrong is someone else's fault' kinda guys. Cut your losses marcia and you'll be doing yourself and dc a favour.

I told him this morning I wanted him to leave he hasnt been back since and no contact.

My dd is still up waiting to speak to her dad. The two little ones are in bed. I have no idea if he will return.

I feel numb and partly to blame he told me to shut up. I know this is wrong but why couldnt I just hold.it in knowing my dd was upstairs.

Even if you have a zip on your mouth, your dc will pick up on the tensions between their dps.

It doesn't sound as if you or your dc are happy with your h around and, if that's the case, you're best advised to set to and start creating the life they deserve.