Now it's over

[Milly22]

I don't go on here much but everybody seems to have great advice and help on here. Here goes....
After nearly 14 years of marriage I want out. I've never been able to make H happy who's always wanted things his way. Goes out without me, controls all money and makes all the decisions and has always wanted to mould me into the 'perfect wife', whatever that is He brings in £2,500 a month and as I bring in £1,200 working part-time(30 hours) to fit around school DD 12 and DS 9. Our mortgage is £700+ a month. I basically want him out and wondering if benefits such as working family tax credit would help with the mortgage without me taking him for every penny or am I just going to have to sell up and rent?

I'm so sorry, sounds like a very hard situation. Unfortunately I have no advice, I just didn't want to lurk and run.

Best of luck with whatever happens.

xx

For finances you really need to go and take advantage of a free half hour or so with a solicitor who specialises in family law. If you want to give them the best leg up possible get the Which Guide to Divorce and find all the information they suggest and your free half hour will be worth hundreds of pounds.

For the other stuff: sorting through the head/emotion/children etc. and finding the strength to believe in yourself and keep going this topic is unbeatable (except possibly by a gaggle of girl friends and )

it sounds like your marriage has been abusive and I am amazed at how strong and together you sound. I also left a 14 year marriage to a controlling and angry man, life is better, the practicalities you can deal with one by one.

all the best for your future and for your DCs.

foolonthehill ....thanks