I have been friends with this girl for 8 years. She is the first girl that I ever really felt connected with. She understood me.
I moved away from her 6 years ago and although we didnt get to see eachother often because of this we spoke on the phone all the time and when we did see eachother it was like I had only seen her yesterday.
I actually moved back about 25 min drive from where she lives about 1 1/2yr ago. I thought that we would see more of eachother but I always seem to be the one going to her home and she has only ever been to my new home twice. I have also found recently that she is quite snappy and anything I say is wrong. I am pregnant with my second child and she has serious fertility issues. She may not be able to have children, I completely understand she maybe feeling strange towards me because of this recently I dont think she even knows or remembers who I am.
At her wedding last year I had to leave early because I was breastfeeding, my three month old daughter had not slept all day and she was becoming hysterical. We left just before the night time reception started. She told me that I should have left my baby with my mother, but I tried to explain I had not been able to express enough milk and this is why I had brought my baby. Even though she had invited my baby aswell. She still didnt get it. We resolved the issue and agreed to disagree. I thought we were better but recently her odd attitude has started again. When I had three miscarriages she was all over me, and even with this pregnancy when I had a bleed she was so supportive. But now everything is ok she is snappy again.
She has left her old job after months of me telling her she can do better and I wish nothing but the best for her. Another girl at her work has also started work a few weeks ago at the same place. Stupidly this girl sent a message to my friend and included her old boss by accident and they sent a legal letter regarding poaching staff. Thankfully the job offer was fine and everything was ok. The friend then started posting on her facebook wall saying well done for your new job but being slightly animated about it. I sent a message to my friend just saying tell her to calm down a bit as people from your old work are on fb and it might get back to your old boss and antagonise them. I was just looking out for my friend I didnt want her to loose her job with some more legal issues.
I then didnt hear from her for a few days so I asked her if she was ok and she told me no. I had upset her with my comments, it had been the best bit of news she had had in ages and I ruined it with my comments. I jsut apologised and said I was genuinely looking out for her. She then proceeded to have a go at me again and said oh it must be a misunderstanding...just like she misunderstood me before.
I have now not heard from her for days which is really unlike her. Am I in the wrong? I always initiate peace when it comes to her being upset and Im not sure why I should do it once again.
Am I wrong or is she? Im confused. Really need a neutral opinion