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[StuffezLaBouche]

Usual apologies for crap phone typing. I really need some advice please!
I have a male friend who's in same profession as me. He stays at mine most weekends to have wine, watch films, etc. He is a generous guy and i do like his company on the whole. I do sometimes wish i had weekenda to myself, but hey. He's gay, so no sexual stuff going on at all.

So, last nigt some work colleagues and i had arranged to see a film then have a couple of drinks after. I've been looking forward to it for a while. Friend asks to come and i said fine. Friend turns up to meet us after film HAMMERED. Obnoxiously so. He was rude to my workmates and one poor woman's dp got a bit.lumbered with him which i feel bad about. He criticised our jobs, etc etc. It was very awkward.

Over the course of the evening he managed to lose his wallet which of course meant no taxi money. In the end a colleague and i slung.him on my.sofaand went to bed. (colleague in spare room as pre arranged.) In the night i could hear him blundering round downstairs and thigs crashong over so i went down and.he was REALLY aggressive with me, asking why that 'cunt' was in 'his' bed, etc. It was mortifying as i knew colleague was awake and must have been so uncomfortable.

What the hell do i do? I want him out my house but he will be in no fit state to drive. I have seen a truly horrible side of someone i consider a close friend and i feel angry, upset, embarrassed.

What shud i do before anyone gets up?

Oh shit ive posted this twice, sorry.
The one with the title is 'sudden aggressive behaviour.'

He's taken advantage of your nice nature, got used to your hospitality and sees your place as his. No way!!!

For the sake of your colleague, I'd make everyone breakfast soon, be civil but not friendly to your 'friend' and make it clear you have plans today that involve him leaving asap. Don't let your colleague leave before him! Once he's gone, compose a succinct, pithy email that makes it very clear he is never welcome in your home again.

Entitled twat.

Hope you're ok x

Thank you spellcheck. It's the 'acting normal' I'm worried about. I just want him to leave. I will get some bacon going in a bit.
Feel doubly mortified as i am hoping to apply for a senior position that i suspect is opening up at work soon. Although the people there last night dont make that decision, i still have visions of 'stuffez's mate being a complete knob' being work gossip.

So he's potentially ruined prospects for you, or at least caused some future embarrassment? Even more reason not to care about him being in a fit state to drive.

If you are civil with him, and he is quiet and contrite, it might minimise some of the impact of last night so you can safely bundle him out. Definitely worth chatting with your colleague too, to get it out in the open soonest.

Above all, though, I sympathise with the loss of your lovely friendship with someone who turned out to be a total tosspot! You sound really nice, he took advantage of that. Remember that when he starts trying to wheedle his way back in!

Really kind words spellcheck, thanks. He has driven off without a word, followed by a text demanding i leave his charger round the side of my house.
Making breakfast now. Feel shocked and down.

He has an alcohol problem, yes ?

Not your problem though.

Wrt alchol problem, i'm not sure.
At university we all drank a lot and went out regularly, but obviously when you begin workig and supporting yourself, that level of drinking becomes impossible and actually fairly dull.
I just don't think he's realised that yet. He earns good money and pays a pittance of a rent. Seeing as he is always skint that's probs an indicator of how much he is spending on drink.

No, not my problem tho, you're right. It also seems he's told a couple of mutual friends I kicked him out this morning after flipping and being a nutty bitch. I am totally distancing from him. I need friends who are fully functioning adults.

I need friends who are fully functioning adults.

Indeed. And he isn't it.