Would you/have you propose/d to your man?

[Insecure24]

Ok so we've only been together 13 months but we are 100% committed, sickeningly in love. We own a house together already. Anyway, we talk about "our wedding" "our kids names" all the time. We both know we'll get married eventually but I'm getting impatient! Should I?! I'm a girl of very small balls, so think I'd cock up but interested to hear of other stories!

If everything in your OP is true, do it.

IMO proposals are overrated. The ideal scenario is that both of you have discussed the relationship to such an extent that it's a mutually agreed decision. If one of you surprises the other with an out-of-the-blue proposal a la the movies, then only one of you has been seriously considering marriage, which is not really a good indication of the level of communication going on and therefore the likely success of the marriage.

However, if you've discussed marriage, you both see it in your not-too-distant future and it's simply a case of formalising it, then it's lovely, because the answer is nearly always going to be "yes".

My CM proposed to her DH. He saw it coming. He said yes. They are blissfully happy.

Good luck.

OH and I agreed we would get married, wedding booked - I have no interest in a proposal :) Like you, we have bought our own house and this felt like the next step.

It really depends on how traditional he is and how you would expect he would react. What would you do if he said no? Would you feel cheated out of a proposal if he said yes?

If you're pretty certain he's going to say yes - just go for it :) You sound really happy and have already made some big financial commitments together already. Let us know how it goes! Good luck :)

If you're endlessly talking about 'our wedding', surely all you have to do is say 'when should we tie the knot? or ask what his preference would be re the season - i.e winter/summer etc.

Alternatively, you could play it a tad coy and say 'it's all very well planning 'our ideal wedding' but I hope you know that before we book the venue I'd appreciate a ring proposal first' in joking tones.

I surprised my husband with an out of the blue proposal. I don't agree that this means that only one of us had been seriously considering marriage. I see the marriage as pretty successful.

All that I have to reoprt back from the experience is that that my very traditional husband was thrilled to be proposed to. He thought he was the very knees of the bees.

The thing that puts me off is how much of a romantic he is. I'd hate to burst his bubble by doing it not him. We've "planned" it in as far as saying we'd get married in *Hampshire as that's where we've both grown up. And discussed who'd be best man/bridesmaids. I should bite my tongue shouldn't I? Deep down I'd love to be proposed to I just don't want to wait forever

What's the rush?

'The rush' may be in the OP's choice of name, Toby. And if she's only 24 that makes me feel

That's what I feared :(

The name refers to insecurities unrelated to this completely.

How about getting those resolved so that you can truly enjoy your big day?

Somehow I fear it may all be related.

Really, there's no hurry. You're enjoying your relationship as it is. Don't negate that by making it not enough for you.

No, my insecurities are over a health issue! I'm very secure in my relationship, job, finances (fortunately) but yes I'm nearly 25 so in no real rush so will wait and see

I proposed as we had house two kids and I increasingly felt that I wanted to be. On his fortieth I couldn't think of a surprise so surprised him with the proposal. We married about a year later, had a further dc and are now divorcing