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Becoming an Aunty.....!

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SarahGoodwin33 · 19/02/2013 09:08

Hi All
I am new to Mumsnet so hello to all of you. My name is Sarah and I am transsexual and have been living as Sarah for 2 years. I won't go into the hows and whys but needless to say my situation has brought me numerous issues. Some of my family are accepting but some are not and I just have to accept that and move on with my life in the way I have always wanted.
My sister is accepting of me and is expecting twins and I hope that I can be a great Aunty to them but it is quite scary (even more so that coming out as transgendered!). I joined Mumsnet for some friendly chat and perhaps some advice on my new role....!
Look forward to chatting

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Arion · 19/02/2013 09:15

I don't have any experience but wanted to say, welcome to Mumsnet and I hope you get the support you're after.

The posters on relationships usually seem friendly and helpful, but a word of warning, I'd be careful with AIBU (am I being unreasonable) as it seem a bit hostile sometimes!

throwinshapes · 19/02/2013 09:21

Welcome to Mumsnet.
I'm sure you will be a fantastic auntie. Exiting times ahead. ??

throwinshapes · 19/02/2013 09:22

Oops that was meant to be

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SarahGoodwin33 · 19/02/2013 09:22

Hi Arion
Thank you for your advice and for the welcome
S

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 19/02/2013 09:27

Hello and welcome to MN. How exciting to be an auntie to twins. Just dive in - Chat is a great place to start.

Just a small mention tjough, if your username is very similar to your real name, it may be worth changing it to something less identifiable. Being anonymous on here is quite pleasant really.

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SarahGoodwin33 · 19/02/2013 09:40

Thanks for advice in the name, I am new to forums and just put my real name in thinking that would be easy to remember....:-)
I may well change it but also have put some pics up so there's no hiding now..!

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SarahGoodwin33 · 19/02/2013 09:42

I think the only way is to just dive in as you say Chaostrulyreigns. I am so looking forward to being an Aunty not to mention being called Aunty Sarah, the next best thing to being called Mummy which sadly I will never experience. Having said that I am mummy to my beloved cats but they can't talk!

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DIYapprentice · 19/02/2013 10:17

Welcome, Sarah. But honestly, get rid of identifying photos, and change your username. MN is not really one of those small little chat groups where everyone knows everyone else. Some people may become 'friends' - and a lot of these exchanges are by private messaging, but it is a BAD idea to be so public. Seriously. This forum can be searched on google, and if someone searches transexual aunty, this thread will most likely show up. Ask yourself how you would feel about that!!

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SarahGoodwin33 · 19/02/2013 11:05

thanks for the advice diy apprentice and I totally see your point. I have nothing to hide however and as long as no-one on here is offended in any way I am happy to be open. I may well change my username although I have used a different surname to my real one.
Thanks again

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ilovewoody · 19/02/2013 13:10

Great news Sarah! How exciting!
Unfortunately I will probably never be a mother either (having lost a baby and now being divorced) but being an auntie to my sisters 15 month old daughter is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It's a special job and will hopefully mean a close bond with my niece. Enjoy time leading up to the birth and all the joy that their arrival will bring.
I would echo the name change thing too as the anonymity of MN means you can always say exactly what's on your mind without any fear of anyone else stumbling across it.

ThreeTomatoes · 19/02/2013 13:29

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SarahGoodwin33 · 19/02/2013 14:55

very sweet of you thanks threetomatoes (and Ilovewoody). Yes I am relishing those days at the park or babysitting. I will however try not to spoil them too much....

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WakeyCakey · 19/02/2013 18:43

Congratulations Sarah.
I really look forward to being an aunty one day (my sister has just started trying).
And twins are so lovely as well.
I hope you get on well here at mumsnet, maybe have a pinch of salt ready for some of the boards but generally speaking everyone is nice
You'll be addicted in no time!

Sunnywithshowers · 19/02/2013 20:45

Congratulations Sarah!

I'm never going to be a mum, but am auntie to 2 teenagers and a toddler. They start off wonderful as babies and go through different types of wonderful as they grow up.

I was lucky enough to spend a lot of time with the older 2 when they were little, and they're growing up to be lovely young people.

As an auntie you have all of the fun and none of the responsibility :) Enjoy! x

Keishara · 19/02/2013 21:37

Hello! I'm going to be an Auntie soon too, just excited to see someone else looking forward to it really - its a brilliant excuse to look at cute baby things isn't it?

Sunnywithshowers · 19/02/2013 21:45

Ooh Keishara I'd forgotten what fun it is buying baby things

MrsHelsBels74 · 19/02/2013 22:01

I'm sad I will never get to be an Aunty. DB got me all excited last year as he & his partner were going to adopt but they changed their minds. BIL is 40 & still lives at home with his mum & dad so what are the chances there?
Enjoy being an Aunty

FredWorms · 19/02/2013 22:12

Congratulations Sarah, being an Aunty is just the best.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 19/02/2013 22:23

Hi Sarah, my sister is a great Auntie to my two. She doesn't have children (DCs as they say on Mumsnet) herself so I'm sorry I can't return the favour but over the years they have good banter and the older they get, the more they see each other independently of family events.

Hope you have many good times ahead, I have no experience of twins but hope your sister has a calm pregnancy and I'm sure she'll appreciate a hand.

PS In the Being A Parent section there's a topic called Multiple Births, lots of threads about twins there.

DameIanMcKellan · 20/02/2013 10:35

So, Auntie or Aunty?

DameIanMcKellan · 20/02/2013 10:36

These distinctions are very important you know.

thornrose · 20/02/2013 10:43

I'm not an auntie sadly but my sister is a great one and loves my dd almost as much as me. Now dd is a teenager I can call on her to take dd out shopping and she has chats with her about stuff she might not feel like talking to me about.
Enjoy it, I'm jealous.

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