porn

[tylersmummy12]

Agree on oh watching it or not? I find it sick.. Makes me feel so insurce(sp) and ugly anyone else the same?

Know my DH watches it, and he knows I know. Not keen on it myself

Not keen on it for me to watch with him I should say

It's a thorny issue for me, this. I don't know if my DH watches it. And (how stupid is this) I daren't ask him. In case the answer is yes. Because I wouldn't be happy about it. And I just don't want to face the reality of the horrid feelings and unpleasant conversation and future suspicion that would ignite.

I do check internet history from time to time and I have found nothing. Lots of expected stuff - cars, sport, news etc - so he's not deleting whole swathes of history, but he is much more clued up than I am with IT so he may know of a way to view porn without it showing on the history, for all I know.

He doesn't hide his phone, I am free to pick it up and use it anytime.

I just hate that I can't fucking ask him outright. Been bothering me for ages.

By the way OP, it wouldn't bother me in the same way it bothers you - it doesn't make me feel ugly because I don't see those women as looking attractive. It bothers me because of the kind of sex they are having - cold, clinical, unloving sex with no focus on female pleasure. Objectifying women and all that stuff. Find it very very distasteful.

I've seen porn that is not clinical, and cold, and where there is a huge focus on the female pleasure. And it's not like I'm a regular viewer!
I can't really see the problem with men or women watching porn at all.
Fair enough, if my partner would rather get their fix watching it than come to bed and get it on with me I might have an issue, but otherwise, honestly, I just don't see the harm.
Pretty sure I'll get flamed for this, but hey ho.

Talk to him. If this is making you sad you need to let him know. It's okay not to like porn, whatever the reason is.

Personnaly I watch porn a good few times a week. Its the only way I can orgasm whilst masturbating. I also know my partner does when he is in his own house. We also watch it together.

I love it but I understand its not for everyone and I may be in the minority for females.

My husband and I have been together for 7 years. I can honestly say, I have seen porn on his laptop from time to time. It's never bothered me.

I haven't a clue why it's never bothered me, it just doesn't.
It's probably because every now and again, I watch it on my own to. It doesn't affect how I feel about my DH, and it's something I will only think about while I watch it - my thoughts don't go any furthur. I believe it's the same for my husband.

You can tell I've had a class of wine, I'm spilling intimate details here

No.

Hate porn and the abuse of women in the industry to make it, detest the impact it's having on sexual relationships and especially young people's understanding about real sex.

But if a partner of mine watched it, I wouldn't feel ugly or insecure. I'd just make it clear that I wanted a relationship free of porn and if he wanted to carry on using it, he wouldn't have me in his life any longer. I prefer a man with an imagination and strong ethics.