The jist of it was she said there's nothing wrong with me, nothing that she can see is a real problem in our relationship beyond the usual stresses and strains of daily life with children, which are not insignificant but certainly not the root cause of our issues.
The long and the short of it was HE is the problem and until he can overcome his problems no chance of change.
So right now he doing all the right things, sheepishly stepping away from the internet, I have taken his phone so he only has a work one that he would be sacked if he used for anything but business - not to say he couldn't text and call though if he was of a mind but he can't join dating sites etc.
She said these were all good moves.
However - he did all this before. In 2009 I thought he was shagging somebody on his MBA course, barking up the wrong tree with that one but I knew something didn't feel right and of course by then he'd already had sex with TRAMP1. So when the opportunity presented himself with TRAMP2, muggins here thinks I know the password to his google account, his phone is clear because he's deleted everything the minute it hits the screen, so basically he's just getting better at hiding it isn't he ?
He would never have told me had he not been caught out.
Why am I going to counselling ???