About 3mths ago mil told dh that she was cutting ties with him and ds because she was fed with being hurtt i.e fed up with not getting her own way.
She felt she was treated differently to my parents especially when ds was concerned. This wasnt true but obviously when i was pregnant my mum was with me at the scan etc and the first person to come and see me and ds. Mil was very paranoid and jealous and thought my mum was at the birth and also at the hospital everyday etc but she wasnt. She was however at the hospital everyday when i had pre-eclampsia and was ill unlike my mil.And also came round when dh was at work to help with housework when i was discharged and to make sure i was resting etc.
Things came to head when we were buying a house which just happened to be near my mum. Mil said in her own words im cutting ties even if it means not seeing gs. Dh and i were both shocked that she had brought him into it.
Anyway we didnt hear anything until mothers day when fil sent a text telling dh that it was clever of him not to get a mothers day card. I know for a fact dh wanted to but at the same time he didnt want it to seem that he was giving in to her as she had gone too far this time.And to be honest we didnt know if she had meant what she said or whether it was just manipulation and emotional blackmail so we wouldnt buy the house.Obviously it was and it backfired for her.
We then heard from other sources that theyve told people weve fell out because we were buying a house in a really bad area. And also how much dh has changed since being with me. Mil had told this to dh ex gf who mil also hated and blamed for changing dh. Yet dh ex looked like she really felt sorry for mil and even said she looked liked she was gonna burst into tears. Mil even slags off his ex now.Dh just reminded her of what she was like when they were together and said she was even worse now.It just shows how two faced she is and how good she is at playing the victim.
Anyway on easter sunday fil came round with eggs for our ds mil waited in the car. Apparently shes got a hernia and something else so couldnt come to the door. Fil asked if he could take ds up to the car car for a few mins wtf are they playing at! obviuosly dh agreed. The fact that mil didnt come to door was bs as she has to walk down a flight of steps anyway. She was obviously still too proud and stubborn.Anyway that evening i begrudgingly told dh to ring mil and thank her for the eggs for ds. The conversation was short but polite and civil though we havent heard anything since and vice versa.
The thing is she obviously didnt mean what she said but is too proud to say sorry or to make proper contact. Yet at the same time shes insulted the area where i was brought up, tried to emotionally blackmail dh and i into not buying a house, playing the victim to other people and twisting the truth. And i wouldnt even be surprised if she was telling people that we were stopping her from seeing our ds. I was really upset for dh after her saying what she said but even more upset that she could cut our ds out of her life. And everything else just makes it worse.
The thing is i dont know what to do i really dispise her for everything now and dont want anything to do with her myself but feel guilty for dh and ds not seeing them. Like maybe i shoiuld be trying to make the piece between them or to arange contact between ds and them. But then im angry as shes caused this and if shes too proud nad would rather lose a gs and ds then thats her own doing.
Tbh sometimes i feel like leaving dh as if i wasnt there dh would be single and at her beck and call and i wouldnt have the guilt of coming between them. I just want to enjoy my son with my family who are happy and care for us both and not have to answer to anyone particularly mil about how i bring him up.