Hi
I'm a single parent with 3 young DCs. Been with partner for 15 months.
We have sex mostly when the DCs are away every second weekend, rarely when they're here, and mostly in the morning. We have had this recurring argument, at night, where I'm keen on sex and we're cuddling, then he seems to fall asleep so I say, oh, so you're tired and then he says he wasn't sleeping, and that I'm forcing him to have sex.
I worry that he's just not that into me. He says he loves me, more than any woman he's been with, says he does fancy me, but gets tired when the kids are home. He stays over a lot, and it's always me that deals with the DCs, at night and the morning. Anyway. Over the time we've been together, I had suspicions about his fidelity after stumbling upon a profile remarkably like his on the dating site we met on. My friend was on this site, and I was hang on a minute! Anyway I confronted him at the time, he denied it was him but said he'd been helping his friend create a profile. I wasn't sure I believed him, and in the end a friend made contact with him, and he gave his email. This was 3 months later and I confronted him. He claimed it was his friend who stitched him up.
Despite this, we remained together. Since I have snooped intermittently, and found he was in platonic contact with an ex, and he'd met her and again he'd denied this, until I admitted the extent of my snooping.
There has been a dodgy text I intercepted earlier on too.
I'm not a nutter, and am trusting normally. His lack of interest in sex again makes me suspicious.
I just feel this cycle of mistrust is exhausting, and at this stage in a relationship it should be easy and fun!
I left my ex, he had a drink problem, I know I have self esteem issues but am usually rational, and easy going.
Please help me work through this.