Should I have told him I was totally, madly in love with.him?

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Even though i was as sure as I could be without being actually directly informed he did not feel the same way about me?

Five years ago I wish I had told my ex lover how I really felt.

Why do i regret not telling him so much?

Was I wrong not to tell him?

Should we always profess our true feelings as long as not.hurting anybidy else?

If he didn't feel the same way... no point. Might have made you sound needy, in fact. You may regret it because you think things could have been different if he'd had a bit of a push, perhaps? Don't see how it is ever 'wrong' to not express feelings really... it's a personal judgement call, not a question of morality.

True :(

How do I stop wanting him? He was very sexy

Why did you choose not to tell him at the time? Did you feel insecure, sense his lack of commitment to you?

If so you haven't missed an opportunity, you were rightly protecting yourself.

Sounds like you're idealising him a bit now as the one who got away, whereas perhaps in reality your instincts told you not to make yourself vulnerable.

You are right Marylin.

Some people are hard to sluice out of the brain But it can be done!

You will stop wanting him honest takes time it is hard but the reality of him not wanting you like you did maybe will sink in in time big hugs to you .

Sluice

Thank you Honey

Just want him gone!

It's so easy to look back on things and beat yourself up for doing or not doing something.

Just remember that you were still you back then - not some stranger - and you did what you thought was right for yourself at the time. Time has passed and you're second guessing your old decisions. Stop - it's pointless. Forgive yourself and let it be :)