Am I doing the right thing?!

[JockMum]

Have namechanged...some background-40something Mum to gorgeous DS who is 3.5. Currently we all live together, from March I will be a homeowner and have told P that I dont want him moving to new house with DS and I. We've been together for 6 years. In summary Ive had enough of him drinking every night,3-4 cans minimum...which is generally funded by increasing overdrafts, credit card debt and, for a time, payday loans.

Im struggling with belief that Im doing the right thing...he's not violent or abusive in any way, spends loads of time with DS, and its clear DS adores him. As soon as I told him he wouldnt be moving with us he accepted it without discussion, but I think thats more to do with him wanting space to do what he does without me going on at him. He's away with work for a few days and already DS misses him terribly. Can I really do this to ma boy?

Yes listen, do you want it to become sins, seven eight cans? Well done!!! Do it now before it gets harder. And you can set up regular child contact not at your place so your son gets to see him, pref before he has ha his four fans a day...

Yes, alcoholism isn't a nice thing to grow up with, it's a difficult transition but with regular contact your son will be fine and you will be happier too.

You have to consider long term effects on DS...does P drink in front of him? That aside, the fact that he takes on debt to support his habit would be enough for me...

Yes you really can do this to your boy because of the two of them, your P is a grown man, your son isn't. Your P can choose how he lives, and good luck with that, and your DS is depending on you for a stable calm environment and happy upbringing. Your son can still see his dad, just not living under the same roof.

100% correct decision. Now stick to it, keep in touch, good luck.for your new life. You are strong Lady! :) and a fab Mum.

Your son will be better off without a parent who puts drink before him. And you will both be better off without the debt and behaviour caused by the drinking! It is a horrific and emotionally damaging way to live, and a terrible role model for your son, and you are 100% doing the right thing.