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could i email a guy and ask him out if i havent ever spoken to him????

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heybabe · 27/04/2006 20:29

is this an ok thing to do, if so how can i put it to him - short and sweet?
bareing in mind that i havent spoken to him before, but i am getting to the stage where i just think life is to short to wait around dreaming about him, when he might not be intrested in me?????

anyone have any ideas?? thanks

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AllieBongo · 27/04/2006 20:34

where have you seen him..?

Aimsmum · 27/04/2006 20:35

Erm, i guess it depends on how you know him and how you have his email. More details??

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heybabe · 27/04/2006 20:37

he is a local band promoter, at local place where bands play. and i have his email address? from the website,
i could never ask him to his face but not sure about email either?

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busybusybee · 27/04/2006 20:38

Is he married?

AllieBongo · 27/04/2006 20:39

do you know what he's like..he could be gay, or a real wanker? I don't think I could

Aimsmum · 27/04/2006 20:41

I think if it was me I would try to speak to him first, as from what you have said it sounds as though you don't really know much about him! He could be a weirdy!

I don't know how I would respond to an email asking me out, from someone I had never spoken to before, but if you feel you wnat to go for it, good luck

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heybabe · 27/04/2006 20:45

yeah i know i dont know what he is like but i dont know what any future partner would be like until i go out with them

no he isnt married...

if i was brave enough i could go to a gig there, but none of my friends seem keen to come along, as its rock sort of music....

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snafu · 27/04/2006 20:47

Have you had any contact with him at all? I mean, would he know who the email was from even though you've not spoken to him?

AllieBongo · 27/04/2006 20:48

i know what you mean, but you have to be safe. Most men are freaked out by women at the best of times, so unless he's very liberal, he may find an e-mail a bit strange... I knew my dh thru an exp. I phoned him up and asked him out, but I had spoken to him lots before

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heybabe · 27/04/2006 20:55

yes i suppose so.....

i see him lots around the place when i am there, and he has spokem to me a few times about my dd, but i turned into a complete idiot and didnt respond. i am such a niptwit, and feel like i have missed my chance when he spoke to me, by blanking him, through fear!!!!!!!!!!

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AllieBongo · 27/04/2006 20:57

poor you. i'd bully your mates into going down there. Surely they would stomach the music to help out a pal??

snafu · 27/04/2006 20:57

I would drag a friend or two along to a gig (bribe them with booze?) and take it from there.

If it were me I'd find an email just out-of-the-blue a bit, ummm, stalkerish, really. But I am old and well out of the dating game, so I could be wrong

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heybabe · 27/04/2006 21:01

yeah you are right, thanks for advice

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AllieBongo · 27/04/2006 21:14

let us know how you get on

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