Been with a guy 3yrs not living together. No DC together He's a lovely partner, attentive, generous, fantastic with DC and liked by all family and friends. Financially solvent and excellent cook....
We met on the net and live 3hrs apart. Despite that distance we see each other 2-3 times a month, text and email every day and spend all holidays together. It's not enough for me anymore. I want him to move in -family reasons mean I can't move. I have the biggest house and have a DC here. He is in total agreement about moving here ....except he hasn't. Job wise...he can do his job anywhere. Children will live same distance away once he's moved. He could rent or sell his house. So no major obstacles
He wants to marry and I've said no in the past. (Bad marriage previously, didn't see the need and reluctant to commit) We discussed it again last summer and I said I was ready to marry. I had changed my mind because I really enjoy spending time with him and decided my lack of commitment was why he wasn't moving in with me and I really wanted him to.
No proposal and no sign of any plans to sell, rent or move. He's just taken on a chairperson role in a local (to him) club he's heavily involved with. He'd say it's only once a month meeting and he can do it by driving up monthly. I think it's just one small example of how attached he is to his life where he lives.
I appreciate he might not want to move. I don't want a long distance relationship anymore. Simple answer is I tell him that and we split
I'm expecting a proposal any day (sounds daft when I say it...) but he gave strong hints he was buying a ring before Christmas.
Emotionally I'm preparing to split up...but awaiting dreading a proposal. I would be happy if he'd move here but I think I'd end up wearing a ring and in a new state of limbo.
Doing my head in.... I have decided to end the relationship at the end of this month unless I have some evidence we might live together very very soon. I'm also aware that everyone will think I'm mad because of my first paragraph. My DD will be devastated as she loves him. I will probably stay single as circumstances mean I can't easily date and I'm not sure I want another man passing through our lives...so lonely either way.
Advice?