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Surely you strong, smart women can knock some sense into me?

33 replies

KateSpade · 08/02/2013 11:13

Ladies, I need a good kick up the ass...

I few months ago I started sleeping with my housemate, I wanted it to be casual, someone for a bit of sex & to go out with that's all. He then really started messing with my head, he'd sell me the world after a few drinks and forget it in the morning, where as I would remember. I corrected him saying, we're just having fun, blah blah. Where as now I've really fallen for him.

He does not want me at all, we've had argument upon argument (I say that, it's just me shouting at him) & I'm trying to be friends with this guy, as I still have to live with him for a few months, but the thought of him bring with other women makes me sick, I can't get him out of my head. I've started dating someone else, no sex just yet, and I'm wanting him to say no, date me instead.

It's awful, I don't know what to do. I always fall for boys who treat me badly, I'm feeling very hurt, my friends are all sick of hearing about it, and my friends are all 'our' friends and slightly lean towards aw, poor him!

I can't get him out of my head, I'm trying to date other people to realise, yes their are other men out their but I've ended up feeling like Bridget Jones.

Help? Anyone?

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amillionyears · 10/02/2013 15:03

www.netdoctor.co.uk/interactive/interactivetests/selfesteem.php

not sure if this link may help you at all?

KateSpade · 11/02/2013 16:43

Yes, that was helpful thank you, i tried to answer as honestly as i could, i got 62, if anyone else has done it i would be interested in your score? but most of my answers were occasionally.

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NeverBeenToMe · 11/02/2013 16:52

I got 49 Sad

Spot on about certain aspects of my life though!

KateSpade · 11/02/2013 16:55

Mine says i feel good about what i do for a living, but i should feel good about who i am not just what i do, that is semi true, I'm a student and love what i do, but I'm not in a career at the moment.

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amillionyears · 11/02/2013 17:30

Most of my answers were occasionally as well.

"I always fall for boys who treat me badly".

If I were you I would google that. Several sites come up for that.
I dont know which of them applies to you.

shadesofwhite · 11/02/2013 18:04

Sorry Kate but your first post sounded like 'Charlotte and Gaz' from Geordie Shore on MTV show.

Hope you find a guy to treat you with respect and to be all yours. Try dating someone who you wouldn't normally go for and see how it goes. All the best.

RememberingMyPFEs · 11/02/2013 18:15

I got 67 and have always felt my self esteem is poor. Like you they were mostly occasionally.
I bounced from bad relationship to bad relationship and then took 18 months out from dating - best thing I ever did!! Met DH in 05 and while he's not perfect, neither am I but we communicate as equals.
I echo PPs. Take time for you. Learn to love you. Then you're more likely to meet someone who loves you like you deserve

Good luck Thanks

KateSpade · 11/02/2013 19:06

I only watched one episode if Geordie shore, it was probably too truthful & painful! But googling that may be a good idea?

Whilst I was pregnant and for the year after I took time out & concentrated just on myself, obviously I didn't get to the root of things!

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