May I have an international-relationship-break-up related hand hold?

[SneezyPanda]

Just that really. Separated but stbxh planning to go back to his home country permanently - very far away (12+ hour flight). I'm fine about the separation, but I really worry for our kids (3&1) who will go from seeing their dad quite regularly to not seeing him at all.

They love my parents, and their aunt and uncle, I hope I have a lot of positive male role models in their life but - what do I say to the DCs? How will they cope with the sudden change? Will they hate me forever?

Sorry, having a very black day and as worried as I am about coping on my own, am a thousand times more worried about how this will impact on them now and as they grow up. Would be very very grateful for some advice or a just a handhold from anyone who has been through a similar situation or has any advice.

Thank you! x

Oh Panda that is tough. However it's your STBXH's choice to move away - though I really don't understand how he could.

I am not from uk, exP is from uk. Now we have split I could never move away. I couldn't move away from DC or take them away from an engaged involved father.

Could he choose to stay in uk?
Hand holding.

I'm here to hold your hand.

I really understand where you're coming from, cos 22 years ago, DS dad left to his own country (outside Europe).

He was 6 months old.
Your children are young enough to easily adapt to the new reality. It's you who will have a harder time.... Just keep yourselves on the right track, you will make it.

Just keep the lines of communication open.

We went to visit the family 2 years ago there. It was amazing. Especially for DS who realised he had a huge family there for him.

So many "globalised families" nowadays. We just have to muddle along with it and do our best