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i am 50 my husband is 63 and i want to leave him.

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tracy1962 · 06/02/2013 17:41

He is a bully, is constantly picking fault with us both. He is unemployed and has no plans to work. I want to leave him. Cannot get my head around the fact that he is older, has no job and I would feel guilty.

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cozietoesie · 07/02/2013 16:31

tracy1962

We can't answer the questions you're posing. We don't know where you live (eg Scotland, England, Wales or elsewhere in the world), where you were married, how long you've been married, whether you have DCs, how long your husband has not been earning, whether you have always been the main breadwinner and your relative earnings before he was out of work, what you each acquired in the way of assets before the marriage started and, perhaps, through bequests etc, your respective pension funds ...and so on.... and so on.

And that's just the pure money side.

Please, please get some proper legal advice on the matter. If you want to do some preliminary reading try

\link{https://www.gov.uk/money-property-when-relationship-ends\english property}

\link{http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/scotland/relationships_s/relationships_relationship_problems_s/ending_a_marriage_scotland.htm\scottish property}

but these are just very simple initial guides to have a look at.

I realize that if you're thinking of ending a long relationship it's a very large thing to do but you have to start somewhere. We are not best placed to advise you on the detailed legal and financial aspects.

tracy1962 · 07/02/2013 17:46

I feel that I should leave him to live in the house as he doesn't have a job and I can pay rent on something else, but I suppose I would want to sell eventually. Also as he is difficult to reason with, jus
t would be easier if I left, just don't know my rights

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cozietoesie · 07/02/2013 17:49

And that's exactly why you need to seek professional advice, tracy. Then you know where you stand.

I believe that many solicitors will give you an initial consultation for free but others could advise you better on that.

cozietoesie · 07/02/2013 17:52

Bear in mind that just because you feel that you should do things in a particular way, it doesn't mean that he won't go to a lawyer also; and he or she could try to exert the full force of the law - and then some.

tracy1962 · 07/02/2013 17:55

Thanks , yes it would be best to seek the correct legal advise. I have found a property to rent and these queries then started to worry me

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cozietoesie · 07/02/2013 17:59

Good. Get the legal advice before you sign to rent anything. A solicitor should be able to see you fairly quickly.

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