Dp wants another child! I feel confused especially after the hell of last year!

[Looksgoodingravy]

So I posted on here mostly about dp and his infidelity which I found out about last April.

Since then he has really tried to put right the wrongs he has done. We have been through a huge rollercoaster of emotions but are coming through the other side, things are never going to be the same again but we're giving it a bloody good go.

Thing is dp is desperate for another child. He's been talking about it more and more over the past few months. I've had so much to think about over the past year that I almost think I'm ready to combust.

I'm 42 so my clock is ticking rapidly. I don't know whether this is what's pushing dp more or not. At my age things may not happen that easily anyway and the thought of more disappointment at this moment in time would be too much really.

I don't know how I feel about having another baby, I really don't. Tbh it's a total head fuck. On the one hand I would LOVE another baby but then I don't know if I could start all over again.

Argh!

I'm posting on MN to see if any of you out there have been in a similar predicament regarding your partner wanting another baby and also it helps just to type it out somewhere to get it out of my head.

Thanks Looksgood in our case it wasn't a make up baby we genuinely wanted another child together and wanted to move on into the future , it would have been terribly naive of us to assume a baby would patch things up.
It depends how far you have come since the affair and whether you see a future with your husband, at the end of the day there are no assurances in life, relationships break up affairs or no affairs.

Yes you're right 50shades.

We've come through a very difficult time and we are getting there. Dp has changed so much and he bitterly regrets what he did.

We've worked hard together to make this work and even though I still have my moments we are really strong, far stronger than we were.

Still it's a topic I didn't think we'd be discussing so soon and a life changing one at that. Picks his bloody moments.

He needs to learn patience!

I suppose it comes from his desire to prove to you that he is properly committed, that everything is OK now - especially as he knows your clock is ticking. And it may very well be that everything really is OK now, but the one ingredient you need more of in the Mending Our Marriage pot is Time.

Mind you, if you would like another baby and would be happy to be a single parent then go ahead - don't have one to keep him happy, but if you feel that having one would make you happy whether or not this man stays with you then that's a fairly good reason for having one.