Boyfriend about to divorce wife

[mothergoingmad]

Hi all, This is a bit of a long story.. i have recently met up with a man who I was in a relationship with 13 years ago. After we split up I met the father of my 2 children and was with him for 10 yrs during which time my ex met and married another woman. She has a 13 yr old son from a previous relationship. When I met up with him again last Nov he told me his marraige was on the rocks.We kept in contact by text messages and phone calls just as friends and became close again. He left his wife at the end of March and they agreed that they should get a divorce as this is the third time they have split up and the marriage is over. Since he moved out I have been seeing him again. He has met my children and they love him I introduced him to my family this weekend and they are happy too. The problem is the wife. She has now told him she still loves him and thinks it is too soon to get divorced, they had agreed to say they have been separated for 2yrs in order to get a quick divorce. He has told her that he doesn't love her any more and wants to go ahead with the divorce. She has her suspicions about him seeing someone else and has threatened to 'nail him to the floor' (her words) if she finds out he has lied. They lived in a council house and have no children together so I'm not sure what the worst she can do is. My boyfriend has the divorce papers but has not completed them yet as he is not sure if the wife will play ball or not, it is driving me crazy he tells me he loves me not her but it won't seem real until the divorce is in progress. Anyone else been through this any help or advice would be appreciated.

She can't do shit, tbh

I am in the same situation with DP and his hag of an ex. She rings the house and calls me a slag etc, and says that I split them up (which is bolleux, as we got together a year after they split). They have been separated for 5 yaers now, and DP is in the process of divorcing her, finally. We had loads of problems getting her to agree, so we just left it until the 5 years was up to get a quick divorce, as before that time, you need consent from both parties to go ahead. (You can do the quickie divorce thing after 2 years, only if she agrees)

She is obviously gutted about the split, and is unable to move on. I think she will in time though. It's bloody hard, but sit tight. He obviously thinks the world of you, and things will get easier in time. They have only been separated properly for a month, so it's probably still quite raw for her.

Relax there's not much she can do if he really wants to divorce her. However you have not been going out with him very long so I would try to keep out of it as much as possible.

Agreed Carmenere.

I have never said anything bad about DP's ex (not to his face, anyway!!!) If he wants to vent his spleen about her, I let him, but I stay out of it as much as poss. It's the best way, I think. Just be there for him if he needs it!

Agree try not to get involved as it will only affect your new relationship. As for nailing him to the wall, what exactly does she plan to do?? Even if she says he has been unfaithful abd cites that as the reason for divorce it doesn't mean she get everything and he doesn't.

Don't worry about it.