My instinct is telling me that this is BS, am I right?

[Bogeyface]

A very dear male friend started a relationship with a man who said he was single. 3 weeks in the man says that he is in fact engaged to a woman who is expecting his twins. Friend freaks out and calls me (I am one of only three people who know he is gay) and tells me all about it. I said that whatever he felt about this man, he should be aware that a man who is engaged and about to become a father is not a good bet relationship wise.

Friend gets an email to say the the man was diagnosed with terminal cancer (this was within 2 weeks of them finishing, never mentioned any health issues) and then a text to say he was in hospital with kidney failure. This was 2 weeks ago.

Fast forward to tonight. He called me again to tell me that he has been dating another man and things are going well but that today he got loads of calls from this man that friend ignored. Eventually he got pissed off and answered it in order to tell the man to fuck off, only to get his girlfriend. The GF was horrified to find she was talking to a man because the message she had been told to deliver was that the man would always love my friend and he was sorry. My friend has a nickname that would probably be assumed to be a female nickname.

It just smells wrong to me. The fact that a GF would ring the "OW" to tell them that her BF loved them doesnt feel right. That the man went from fine to terminal cancer in 10 days doesnt feel right, and that he is suddenly in hospital on deaths door. None of it feels right.

My friend has still blocked him, but feels guilty. I think he is being manipulated and should totally detach.

Thoughts?

What? It certainly sounds fishy.

So this bloke is supposedly in hospital on his deathbed? Maybe there is some way to check that, at least?

Whatever happened, it's not your friend's fault - he has the perfect right to not continue seeing someone if he doesn't want to.

He's being stalked by a nutter are my thoughts on the subject!

Complete and utter bullshit. Who the hell rings up to say, 'My fiancee told me to ring you and say he would always love you. OMG - You're a MAN!'

Tell your friend this ex is simply playing stupid mind games. He should congratulate himself on a lucky escape and have no more contact.

All very peculiar! I think given that he knly knew him for 3 weeks or so I would be inclined to leave well alone. I would be advising anyone who was lied to in the way your friend was to walk away. That the man may on may not be ill doesn't really change that. If he is terminally ill, he needs close friends around him anyway, not someone he's known for 5 minutes who he's been lying to anyway.

Thanks, you have confirmed my feelings.

My friend is actually younger than my eldest son, we are friends because we worked together. He hasnt yet come out to his parents, we are talking about that still. He will do it when he is ready.

The man is 7 years older than him in age but a lot older than him in experience (it seems to me), and is manipulating my friend. What hit me hardest was the "GF" calling him.

If you were a month away from giving birth to twins to your terminally ill partner, would your first reaction to being asked to call their affair partner to say that they loved them be "Oh OK then!"? Regardless of sexuality, you just wouldnt would you?!

what sowornout said!

He is being manipulated, just as you say, by a very poor liar and a stalker. He's done the right thing in blocking him.

Please tell him to try to put aside guilt feelings, because they're misplaced - this man has no feelings to hurt. :( The 'I'm terribly ill, give me some attention' ploy is so old it has whiskers on.

He might have to be very strong though - stalkers are horribly persistent.

Are you sure your friend is telling you the truth about all this? sounds more like hollyoaks than rl...

It should be obvious to your friend that this particular pile of bullshit is giving off enough methane to melt half the Antartic.

If the nutter afflicted one should manage to breach your friend's carefully constructed blocking defences, tell him to call the police and report this demented dude and his cohort(s) for harassment.

A gay man spinning these tall tales gives another meaning to the term 'drama queen'. The guy's obviously got a future on the stage - the one that left an hour ago

Old I do believe him, he is genuinely trouble by this.

I said it was like a soap opera funnily enough! He doesnt want any contact with this man but feels bad for his "GF".

A gay guy with a fiancee, the imminent arrival of twins, the sudden onset of a terminal illness, swiftly followed by kidney failure? A tad too fantastical even for a pisspoor soap.

Your friend presumably knows the true name of the lead character but who knows who the 'gf' was played by? Some twatette doing it for a laugh or a drink, or because they're as screwed up as the author of these sick tales which are designed to make your friend feel bad or beholden

Laughable! But at the same time it's an extremely cruel thing to do to anyone, let alone a young man who may not have a great deal of experience in the less palatable ways of the world and may be more credulous than most - which is most probably why this guilt trip's been laid on him.

Tell him not to feel bad for the GF, Bogey. I think we are all pretty much in agreement that she was 'in' on it.

Tell your poor friend to sell the story to Hollyoaks, be done with it and have fun with people his own age - apart from you of course.