Where do I go from here? WWYD?

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Please come and give me your advice as I feel am going slightly mad!

Will try to condense as much as I can.

Recently got back in touch with a friend I have known for 15 years, after splitting from H not long ago.

We started to spend a lot of time together, he is a single father and our DC just started school together but we have been going out (with DC as well as on our own for coffee and once to the cinema). Things started to happen after I kissed him (this was after a while mind you) He sent me a text saying he thought I was confused and at a vulnerable point in my life and would not forgive himself if our friendship was destroyed because of it. But I explained I was sure and whether things worked out or not I would have no regrets.

So, after that we slept together on numerous occasions and we were texting all day every day.I felt the feeling was mutual. After a week or so, it kind of tailed off and I felt he was backing off. He said he thinks we rushed into things and that he only saw me as a friend.

I was surprisingly gutted, but as I said it would not affect our friendship I tried not to let it. We still see each other every day and I have backed off a lot but he rings and texts me every day. He is a genuinely nice person but I am finding it increasingly difficult. He knows I want more but I dont want to cut him off as we do have a really good friendship.
Our DC dont have any idea of what happened so that is not an issue, but am really close to his DD as he is to my DS.

It is long winded and could add more but I wont. I just want to know WWYD next?

I think you have to have a very honest conversation about what you both want out of this. If you want to be more than friends and he doesn't then you're just setting yourself up for disappointment and should not spend time with him tormenting yourself.

I think he's only interested in you as a friend.

You need to decide if you want him in your life on that footing, or if you need to back off further, It needn't affect your DCs, as I'm sure they'll have many friends whose parents you do not see extensively, so they can continue as friends irrespective of the relationship between the parents.

In your shoes, hard as it may be, I'd reduce the frequency of texting, keep it light but friendly, and make sure I wasn't missing opportunities to meet men who are potential partner material.

Honestly? I'd leave it. Really I would.
I want a man to be delighted to be with me. Not hearts and flowers, but genuine enthusiam you know? Anything less is too shabby for me.

He's not sure he returns your feelings, and he really wants to avoid hurting you, because he values you as a friend. He is being honest I think.

Let him come to you. Absolutely. In the meantime keep your options well and truly open. I don't think this romance is going to work out.

Don't leave yourself open to being toyed with, by being available for him.

I do think that too, but its so hard to even bring it up when Im trying my best to act normal! I know I need to pull myself together and Im really not normally like this. I feel like I have fallen very hard..

Thank you for your replies. Its good to get some outside perspectives and sadly I think you are all right.