Not yet divorced husband announces he is marrying again...

[ParsleyTheLioness]

WTF? Wouldn't it have a bit more class to wait until the divorce is actually through? Don't know why I am suprised...this is the specimen who I discovered was OD when we were 'happyishly' married, who said he signed up for it because DD and I wouldn't go owl-watching with him one night... Guess I am a bit suprised I am suprised IUSWIM. I don't want his sorry arse back. But I am stunned to think it is almost as if he WANTS me to hate him. This all messes with DD (15) head, and I am terrified she will be put off relationships for life. I hate him, and am still bewildered that he has so little respect for DD and I. How do I stop feeling so angry?

Gosh, the fluence just came upon me.... there's a lovely man in your future, Parsley, and he'll come into your life later this year

Ooh, the fluence...lovely. Yes , the summation from someone on previous page is currect. Sorry, to early to link to names. Yes, he is a Mummy's Best Boy... Yes, at their house half-term has come early. Neither of them has any class... I have been silly around men before, but never desperate enough to announce my engagement to one who was still married to someone else! Even one of her kids said she was waiting for an Eastenders moment when I ran in and said 'but he's still married to me'. If the kids are aware of the problem...

Thanks for all your kind words MN wise ones...

Ok. So Decree Absolute received in the post. He can do what he wants now! Released back into the wild to be amongst his own kind. Whatever they are...

I agree. Crack open the champagne. And be glad you're not the one who is marrying him. If he drives you mad there is every guarantee he will drive this new wife mad too. So let them get on with it.

Thanks Viv that's what I think too.

Draw a gold circle around November on your calendar, Parsley, because you're gonna strike gold - he's one of the good guys and you're going to have a very happy Christmas this year.

As for the twunt, he's free to fly to the sun and crash and burn back again ad infintum.

Thanks all.

Owl watching - such fun!
(I do actually know a really sweet guy who goes owl watching & takes fantastic photos of wildlife but its not you soon to be ex.)
Definely crack open the champage and do something fun with your DD.

wonder who wanted to marry - him or her?

Hi Puss goodness knows...all I know is I know nothing of what goes on in his head. Twenty years, and it's a mystery!

My STBXH told me he and the OW were engaged in September. He only left me in June, and swears they were seeing each other three months before he came clean .

I have only just filed for divorce now. Rather strangely, it took him two months to send a cheque for costs for the divorce back to my solicitor, who requested it at the end of November .

I don't think there's any rhyme or reason when it comes to cheating spouses.

Weird isn't it...my XH was holding up the divorce until v recently....go figure!

I hope the lucky lady is fond of owl-watching

She seems to be loved-up enough to go along with his little whims at the moment...doesn't stop him texting me uneccesarily on somewhat flimsy pretexts. And he has already claimed she talks too much, which was one of the things he liked about me, that I didn't... Seems he is not deriliously happy, but she is welcome to his sorry arse!

As the saying goes, the best revenge is to let the OW have him .

Things are far from perfect for me- no close friends near me; no family near by (and even if they were, they're not that helpful); no job; a hormonal 10 year old, who argues about everything (and I mean everything!), etc. But what keeps me going is knowing I don't miss him and I'm not unhappier now than I was before.

congratulations on your divorce parsely!

Thanks Gin.

There's a distinct absence of booze celebratory beverages on this thread

Here you go, Parsley -

The toast is 'To freedom and loving it'

My ex-H also got engaged when we were still married (He was telling people he couldn't wait to be divorced, whilst intentionally holding ours up - in the end, we got divorced on the basis that he didn't protest it, instead of the stupid git just signing the papers and sending them back!). They had a big engagement party and everything - that I had to take the kids to and pick them up from! Less than 4 months later, he was bed hopping with someone else. Then, he was with the OW for a year, before breaking off with her to get back with aforementioned fiancée!
It would all be so laughable if it weren't for the fact that it fucked the children up somewhat!

Congratulations.

So he is free to get married again then... What a lucky lucky woman she is!

Whenever I see OW on your thread I always misread it for OWL

Tell him that you don't give two hoots... : :) Wishing you all the best Parsley.

@Art

Or tel him that you don't give a hoot what the pathetic fucker does next

Have another, Parsley -

Ah, thank you lovely MNers....Kinky what a twunt!