I need some advice from you sensible MNers on how to get out of circular text/email arguments with my STBXH. Today has been another round of bitching and snide remarks and I am exhausted by it all.
It all started when he told me he was going to visit the OW today in her country ( I knew this was coming up but not the exact dates) He met her last year when he was on business and claims he only started a relationship with her after I left ( for what he called a trial separation) We were returning to Uk and I was encouraged to come back with kids and settle first, had hoped he would see sense and join us , he returned at xmas went to stay with his folks but then lied to us all and spent New Year with her midpoint in continents (!!).
Anyway last night I sent him a text in answer to one from him saying 'take care' ( meaning 'be careful') He sent me one saying 'thanks'!!!! So I left it but at 6 this morning my feelings got the better of me and I sent him a text saying 'I didn't mean that I meant be careful I don't want to have to tell the kids they have a half- sibling halfway across the world in 9 months cos u got tricked!!' ( I know I should have left it but ...... ) Anyway we then followed with about 15 texts trawling over the same old stuff, I didn't love him enough and the fact I think no one else would want him proves it, I'm only after his money (ROFL he hasn't got any) etc etc....
Anyway apart from deleting his email ( and unfortunately I know it in my head ) or blocking his texts/ emails impractical cos of the kids, how do I stop this???
aside from the hurt that he is with her and I wish I didn't care it is not doing me ANY good feeling this way.
Sorry it's so long!!