Don't know if anyone will remember me. Ex had an affair and left me for a woman half my age 3 years ago. I was on here proclaiming he would not be having an affair etc and mumsnet put me straight! Then had a difficult time trying to decided whether to move away from where I was living, to be nearer to my parents as they are elderly and father is disabled but didn't want to move dd away from my ex, ie her father.
Anyway, now been divorced for 2 years and things are going well..very well. But has not been easy.
Had an horrendous time in work all of last year with new bosses, bullying and other such crap. Went off sick with stress and was hounded out of the job after 18 years committed service. Ex took the opportunity to stop paying child maintenance as I no longer had the confidence to ask for it anymore. So I had no support network, no job and no confidence or self esteem.
I knew I would have support if I moved back to my roots and luckily had a good GP who encouraged me to move, also I had to move, I think I was seriously beginning to lose it. I was confused, depressed and unable to concentrate on anything. I sold my house and moved back here at the end of last year and bought a house 3 doors down from my parents. My daughter is now at a brilliant school, has made lots of friends and I take her to see her dad once a fortnight. He has married the person he had an affair with and she is expecting their child later this year.
I am working as a locum, the house is lovely and I've met a man who is adorable, early days still. CSA are ensuring my ex pays child maintenance. My parents are well and love me being nearby and I see lots of family and friends all the time. It's good.
Whilst going through this I kept in my head something I saw once:
" It'll be alright in the end...if it's not alright, it's not the end"
Thanks to all mumsnetters and I wish others going through bad times all the best. xxx