I never thought this would happen to me, but I guess everyone feels like that when they find out their OH has been having an affair.
Basically the back story is we got married 8 months ago. Last year was really stressful for both of us. Husband got a new job across the country, we were living apart for 8 months while I tried to sell our old house, buying a new house, planning for the wedding, my family had some major issues, my mum decided to cut me out, my grandma became seriously unwell etc etc
Since the new year my husband had been acting very suspicously, hiding his phone, not letting me see texts he was receiving and being generally distant.
I checked his phone and he had deleted all messages from it which is very unlike him. Then last sunday I hacked into his facebook and found messages between him and this girl that had been deleted.
They had been messaging each other since the beginning of December and had exchanged numbers at the beginning of January. The messages were fairly explicit, imagining how it would be if they were together and him saying if it was 5 years ago it would be her next to him.
I kicked him out, hes staying at his parents and I just dont know where to go from here.
I think I want to try to salvage our marriage but it is too soon for me to give a definitive answer.
Husband has apologised profusely, told me it was a stupid mistake and that he loves me and our family and wants to work this out and stay together. He has answered all the questions I have fired at him and told me how far it went (they kissed) He seems genuinely remorseful and knows he has been a prize idiot. But it just doesnt feel like enoughfor me.