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Dating chat thread still going! Number 39

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lubeybooby · 02/02/2013 12:26

Here we are all

Dating related chit chat here

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JulietteMontague · 03/02/2013 19:36

About the only good thing with the M as I can't even type the word is not having to schedule my life around periods, excruciating period pain and pmt avoidance with an erratic cycle which basically meant being on standby or cancelling plans at the worst moments. Being period free is very good indeed won't mention the rest.

Secretservice · 03/02/2013 19:40

No confusion at Snape's date Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy

JulietteMontague · 03/02/2013 19:40

Oh Snape that is how it should be! Wonderful I am so, so pleased for you! Grin

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lubeybooby · 03/02/2013 19:42

Ahh how lovely, Snape :o what a great update!

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OhWesternWind · 03/02/2013 19:44

Snape you are a jammy so-and-so and I'm just so pleased for you. So romantic. Wonderful.

Secretservice · 03/02/2013 19:46

Oh yes period-free is great, particularly after the nasty, 14-dayers that preceded the end. But I don't want to be ollllddd!

JulietteMontague · 03/02/2013 19:52

Secret you won't be old. I used to fear being old but someone once said if you were going to be 'old' and get a figure like Pat Butcher you'd be old by now already.

MirandaWest · 03/02/2013 20:16

That's lovely Snape :) :) :)

mercury7 · 03/02/2013 20:17

I am also very pleased and encouraged by recent success stories:) :) :)
Infact I've been inspired to text a chap I've been messaging with a proposal to meet for coffee next week...I've been evasive so far wrt meeting him

He's let me into his FB account so I've seen loads of pictures, we've chatted on the phone quite alot but I'm still worried that I'll meet him and just not fancy himConfused

Scrazy · 03/02/2013 20:18

Mercury, think positive and enjoy your date.

48howdidthathappen · 03/02/2013 20:19

Kin Aww sorry Mr Software didn't cut it.

Snape Wow!!! Grin

I am almost period free. Love it! I had years of emotional roller coaster PMT.

watchoutforthatsnail · 03/02/2013 20:20

snape fab. great. Awesome.
:)

Velvet, you still on cloud nine?

I was thinking about the ywk thing while at work, trying to decide what was best, i agreed with what you all said iin the end. We had a skype date, which i just logged in for, i was going to tell him i didnt think it was a good idea etc. Instead he cut me off saying he didnt want to talk to me as he was depressed.
So, thats that then, book closed as far as im concerned. No considerations to be made again.

Goat boy has been texting me non stop. For someone that ' doesnt want anything heavy' he fucking contacts me alot. I think i might see him again, give the sex another go.

I was also seen by someone at work on thur, when i was making a show of myself in the street. I was greeted today by rounds of applause by my team. Amusing :)

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JulietteMontague · 03/02/2013 20:26

Watch so ywk saved you the trouble. I love that your team cheered you in Grin

watchoutforthatsnail · 03/02/2013 20:31

yes, yes he did.

And i loved it too. One woman did a cats bum face, and said ' but you are a grown up, you shouldnt behave like that'

I just laughed and said that i agreed, and that im terrible example of grown up behaviour.

:)

Everyone else was most impressed.

VelvetSpoon · 03/02/2013 20:34

Snape thats such lovely news Grin really pleased for you.

And Watch I think you've come to the right decision about ykw. You're a nice person and want to treat him kindly, thing is I dont think he is, or that he thinks about anyone other than himself as he proved today. whats the latest with Aussies 1 and 2?

I appear to have some sort of bug. Have had stomach cramps all day, was sick about 3 hours ago (though nothing since). Can't face food. Limbs feel achey a bit like the onset of cold/flu...boo :(

However despite feeling rather under the weather, I am still smiling like an idiot about Friday, and every time I remember some of the lovely things he did and said (he even made the bed yesterday morning!) He said that last time he stayed (before Xmas) he absolutely hated leaving me early in the morning...he even felt bad about having to leave yesterday, despite it being nowhere near as early. Am ever so :) and 'awwww' about it all.

I must warn you all, smitten me is probably even more irritating than sad, pessimistic me. I will try and keep a lid on it though!

ike1 · 03/02/2013 20:36

....And Velv you are well deserving of some lovely loving too! x

OhWesternWind · 03/02/2013 20:36

Oh god, just had a phone call off my mum to say my dd is really upset about me seeing LM, has been asking if we're getting married, worried about moving house and step siblings etc etc, why haven't I addressed this with her, what a cavalier attitude I have and so on.

Now I would just say that my dcs really like LM and his children, think he's really funny, hatch plots and wind-ups with him and generally think the whole thing about me having a bf is hilarious but good fun.

So worried I'd really misread this, so I had a word with dd who confirmed all the above but did say shed asked my mum if she thought me and LM would get married. So I did the whole who knows what the future will bring, I may or may not get married/live with LM or A N Other, but at the moment I have no plans to do anything like that. I asked dd to tell my my mum she's okay with things sometime, so dd has just phoned my mum, and ended up having a huge row and putting the phone down on her.

So now my mum will be not speaking to dd and probably me until at least Wednesday.

I truly, truly can't be arsed.

mercury7 · 03/02/2013 20:36

smitten Velvet is good:o

Scrazy · 03/02/2013 20:43

Velvet and Snape, you both deserve it.

Watch, glad you have had the decision made for you. I know it would be really difficult to see the ex again, it would drag it all up but I don't know if I could refuse if he asks, so understand why you agreed, initially. I also had a sneaking suspicion that you would see goat boy again. It's often the case that they make more of an effort if you don't seem bothered.

OWW, kids do say different things to different people. I found this. I would handle it by saying you will always be number 1 even if it was through gritted teeth sometimes but mine was a nightmare about me having boyfriends, still is, but chance would be a fine thing.

watchoutforthatsnail · 03/02/2013 20:46

velvet, be smitten. Its lovely. You deserve it.

Nothing from either aussie. Im not fussed.

and yes, im nice. too nice. But id rather be nice, than an arsehole any day of the week.

western, i expect its just worries over the future etc, and is quite normal. i would just talk to your dd about it and let her know shes as important to you as she always was.

48howdidthathappen · 03/02/2013 20:49

I would find it really tough to have a BF if my son was still at home and he is bloody 23!

watchoutforthatsnail · 03/02/2013 20:54

scrazy, ywk wasnt even an ex!!

yeah. i was talking to someone at work. I fancy him, i do. He makes me laugh till ive snorted and cried. Im willing to give the sex another go. This is not going to be a long term thing, but one more go, just to see. Could have been it was all abit much and the build up made it worse, if that makes sense.

VelvetSpoon · 03/02/2013 21:02

The smitten-ness is distracting me from how crappy I feel so thats good :)

As things stand because Cuthbert says he doesn't want to see me and either not stay or rush off the next morning (and because of our respective DCs) we are probably going to be limited to seeing each other on Fridays...but thats ok, i'm not going to angst over it, once a week is a hell of a lot better than once every six weeks!

Watch, I think you should give goat boy one more try...but if he puts the TV on or asks for food again, bin him immediately!!

OhWesternWind · 03/02/2013 21:03

I've phoned my mum and she is apparently angry with me and disappointed and does not want to speak to me. Apparently I should have waited a few days and then gathered the children together on the settee and had a serious but comforting conversation with them. Apparently I am playing games with dds emotions to have just spoken to her normally about it without making it into a Big Thing.

At least dd is okay!