Advice needed, someones got a crush on ME

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This is probably going to sound really silly, but I'm hoping that someone,somewhere can help me deal with this very awkward situation I find myself in.
I'm a 43 year old single mom and work part time doing an incredibly boring job. That said, my colleagues are great and that makes things a little less tedious.I'm a very chatty and fairly confident person and find it easy to initiate conversation with even the most reserved people.
I have not been in a relationship for many years. This has not bothered me the slightest bit. I've not even had a serious romantic interest in a man.Friend s gave up trying to "pair me off" a long time ago and accept that I'm happy being single.
OK, I'll cut to the chase. One of the men at work, a senior member of staff,is someone I greatly admire. I often used to have a natter with him and I enjoyed his company. He's very popular,what you'd call a thoroughly nice man.We have a bit in common,but I wouldn't go so far as to say we were friends.We just shared a few light hearted chats ,nothing more. I didn't find him attractive,although I suppose he is quite good looking.
Recently though I've begun to dread meeting him at work,not because I don't want to see him or anything, but because he's acting like a love sick teenager when I'm around.
I don't know when it all started,it really took me by surprise.One day we were having our usual chat/banter and the next day he couldn't look me in the eye and was blushing furiously. It didn't help that I started blushing with embarrasment too.
I carried on my duties and decided this was a one off. When I passed his office I said hello etc and he blushed even more. I couldn't break the ice.This has continued for the past couple of weeks.He used to always say goodnight when he was leaving, but this has stopped. He avoids passing me in the corridor and when he does speak to me, he trips over his words and stammers.
I have to admit that I'm flattered by the fact he likes me, and I'm begining to think that I may like him too.
I really don't know why he's developed this crush on me. I've not said anything that would lead him on. I'm jovial but not outright flirty .
I just want to break this spell.

For fucks sake just walk up to his desk and say " would you like to go out next week for a drink?"

I have just read all the posts on this and whilst found so forgotten I had a pan of pasta on the job which is now mushy disintegrated blurgh.

Not a word of this is really real is it? It's all in Franchesca's head whilst she sits bored rigid at work staring at her okish looking boss?

Actually, get your mother to ask him out on your behalf.

I have an image of a Mr Bean - Rowan Atkinson type man.

No idea why.

I still cannot understand why you haven't just given him the note, or texted him, or friended him on facebook then messaged him (all ways to contact a man without looking at them for fear of rejection although Facebook is a bit eek as they have a picture and have the green light if they are on when you are - this can be turned off).

Do you not think it's easier staying single OP? I do. I still maintain you will not like him and reading your OP when he started blushing I was thinking perhaps he had passed wind and that's where all the mutual blushing started?

Anyway, I hope I am wrong and he looks like David Beckham or Richard Gere and it all ends well. (soon)

It's going to go on for another month isn't it?

It saddens me to think some of you think this a joke. I came hear looking for help and advice. I empathise with what others are going through. I am really struggling.
I'm going to pull the plug on this thread if the abuse continues.So ok. I'm working class, (barely litterate as some would imply) but I don't want my comments rubbished.
And for your information he's attractive.
If I had your brains, money,etc, I wouldn't spend half my life in chat rooms,I'd spend it in the real world.

I have neither brains nor money and I do not work...I think you come across as very literate, it's very nice to read, please just do something now though, I do like nice happy ending.

I have given you advice. Get him drunk, entice him into your lair, shag him senseless. Happy endings all round!

Please don't stop writing I really want to know how you get on and you have to say or do something or you might regret it for years to come like I did when I had a similar experience years ago. Only thought you might be a writer mainly because of your user name .

There is a connection, a vibe however uncomfortable it might be. Dear Mom knows all about it and has urged me to leave a nice note in his diary on my leaving day. She is a relationship councellor. I'm going to say Im sorry to be leaving but I think you are a smashing bloke, I'll miss our chats/banter; and if if you ever you want to talk, meet up for coffee etc, here's ,my mobile number.
Went for lunch with my best mate (male) and he said pretty much the same.

That sounds like a good plan Using. But don't you think it might be better just to ask him out for a coffee in person too? Because if he is as shy about this as it seems he is, then he might wimp out if it is up to him to call.... Maybe is you just ask him out for a drink or coffee it would be more forthright and effective?

What I mean is, just ask him out for a coffee/drink in person, by speaking to him - might work best? You don't have I say anything except, 'hey, would you like to get a coffee w me sometime? How abt next Wednesday?' IME it truly is that easy. You don't need to explain why you are asking. You just invite them. Says it all...

OP, leaving a note runs too much risk of it going missing.
As an adult women, I have learnt that directness is the key. "I'd really like to get to know you better, could we have a coffee sometime?"
If the answers no, it may sting for a few moments but not as much as childbirth!
Talk to him on Monday, your leaving in under a month anyway!

I don't get all the digs at the op...I'm titillated. This thread has helped me while away the evening. If you think it's tosh read something else.

I just want you both to live happily ever after

No news today as such. Crush shut his office door, didn/t play his music. He usually has it on and his door open. He did see me ,but looked straight through me.
It has been a tough time for everyone at work, and the atmosphere has been very charged, what wirh inspections etc.
He didn't even bid me his usual goodnight.

How long have you got before you leave?

Why can you not just ask him if he fancies a drink?

Hello all. Well I leave at the end of the month. Re asking crush for a drink,I can't. We just seem to be avoiding each other as the tension between us is almost unbearable.
I know I should have nipped this in the bud and made light of his crush on me, but I was so taken aback.
Really can't tell what he thinks of me at the moment. Part of me thinks he's angry with me,embarrassed perhaps, and part of me thinks he just can't cross the line to say something.
Oh I really am feeling so down.He's just taken my breath away and I'm cross with myself for allowing this to happen.

he might be upset that you're resigning.

isn't it better to know by making the first move, than to be constantly speculating, getting stressed, and possibly jumping to conclusions?

if you don't do anything then in time you could well be kicking yourself.

what have you got to lose?

buy some leaving buns for everyone, then pop you head round his office door, tell him there are buns, then just ask him if he'd like to meet for a drink.

take a deep breath and go for it

"I am a tad psychic/receptic/intuative, but not mad."

Can't you just tell us now then how it ends?

This thread has cheered me up no end. I've almost forgotten about my aching limbs and streaming nose. Some of the replies have been hilarious.