Advice needed, someones got a crush on ME

[Usingtheplot]

This is probably going to sound really silly, but I'm hoping that someone,somewhere can help me deal with this very awkward situation I find myself in.
I'm a 43 year old single mom and work part time doing an incredibly boring job. That said, my colleagues are great and that makes things a little less tedious.I'm a very chatty and fairly confident person and find it easy to initiate conversation with even the most reserved people.
I have not been in a relationship for many years. This has not bothered me the slightest bit. I've not even had a serious romantic interest in a man.Friend s gave up trying to "pair me off" a long time ago and accept that I'm happy being single.
OK, I'll cut to the chase. One of the men at work, a senior member of staff,is someone I greatly admire. I often used to have a natter with him and I enjoyed his company. He's very popular,what you'd call a thoroughly nice man.We have a bit in common,but I wouldn't go so far as to say we were friends.We just shared a few light hearted chats ,nothing more. I didn't find him attractive,although I suppose he is quite good looking.
Recently though I've begun to dread meeting him at work,not because I don't want to see him or anything, but because he's acting like a love sick teenager when I'm around.
I don't know when it all started,it really took me by surprise.One day we were having our usual chat/banter and the next day he couldn't look me in the eye and was blushing furiously. It didn't help that I started blushing with embarrasment too.
I carried on my duties and decided this was a one off. When I passed his office I said hello etc and he blushed even more. I couldn't break the ice.This has continued for the past couple of weeks.He used to always say goodnight when he was leaving, but this has stopped. He avoids passing me in the corridor and when he does speak to me, he trips over his words and stammers.
I have to admit that I'm flattered by the fact he likes me, and I'm begining to think that I may like him too.
I really don't know why he's developed this crush on me. I've not said anything that would lead him on. I'm jovial but not outright flirty .
I just want to break this spell.

What are you on about OP??? He isn't blowing hot and cold now
Since he emailed, he's admitted having a soft spot for you & that the workplace is a difficult place to show his feelings. Now he's asked to drive you to a do... How is that blowing hot and cold???

What do you want - him to hire a plane and convey his thoughts in skywriting fgs?

From what you've said before...yes you do really like him and his motives are that he has a soft spot for you. Sounds quite simple, no?

he's going to ignore you at work.

outside of work he wants to pick you uhuhupppp

I think Op means, why doesn't he mind being seen with her at someone's leaving work (a colleague) while he's previously avoided showing interest in front of colleagues.
Well, OP, maybe he just thought 'what the hell' as you are leaving soon, though it would've been better if he just asked you out to start with, not confused you with offering lifts - hmm..men like giving lifts as it's an opportunity for a snog without actually dating a woman - so yes, be a bit cautious.
And what's with the wedding ring on his right hand?? would men in UK wear it on the right hand? it's just if he is involved with someone else he may see you as a fling material (another reason to avoid office gossip). Ask him by e-mail whether he's really single - then see whether to agree to this 'lift'. I was right so far though - I knew it was office gossip that stopped him, but that he did fancy you (banter, then cue shoulder rub!) Please make sure you know what his situation is before snogging him, you seem a bit fragile with all this confusion.

'leaving do', not 'work'

What allaflutter said. ^^
He has to come up with a proper date.

Not yet. Dreading seeing him later at work. The emails have put a whole new spin on things.
I'm glad we've broken the ice though,it really was suffocating.

Right. The lift gives you an opportunity to talk with each other.

You seem to be getting cold feet OP. Hope not! He seems nice but possibly quite shy. He is probably attracted to your bubbly, confident personality just try and be yourself and stop over analysing everything
Keep us all posted.

Why are you dreading seeing him?! For. The. Love. Of. All. Things. Holy

Please just shag his brains out in the car. Then update us all for no other reason than I'm a nosy cow

Poor Op she is all and [confuddled]

Sounds good op, confusing but good. I think

Just a bit nervous about seeing him at work.Don't want all the blushing etc to start up again.

claudedebussy pick you uhuhupppp

Uh huh uh huh

Too funny!

(Not laughing @ you OP just the uh hu uh hu link)

Wow just spotted this thread again and have caught up with the lack of action. Still it sounds promising OP, please keep us posted on any progress .

Ok. Wel again it was wall to wall meetings. " Crush" came up to me and said hello " Emma" ( my real name) Few minutes later he left, gave my a cheezy smile and winked.He was looking really hot in hid trendy gear.
My "upfrontedness" has paid off.Told him "dark colours really look good on you
"He told me I looked pretty good too,and I like your new glasses

I love this thread, keep the updates coming using/emma/francesca. Hope it all works out for you

Using, are you not as bored as me?

Christ I wish he'd hurry up and make a move. Why doesn't he just ask you out to dinner? I don't get it. Personally I prefer a man with the confidence and will to take the bull by the horns. All this blushing and procrastinating just wouldn't be doing it for me at all.

I mean, it's not much of a testament to his passion for you is it op? Surely if he wanted you that much he'd be itching to take you out and get you alone? He'd be making it happen!

What is hid trendy gear?

so are you going to accept a lift to the party in his car, maybe hold hands in the dark and gaze at each other like souls in torment?

Op are you 12?

You sound as sweet and dysfunctional as each other! Well done for womaning up though and obviously it paid off.

I have to know how this plays out now, do keep us updated!

Only another 300 posts until they kiss churchhug sit next to each other!