Hi all, Just wanted some thoughts from you all on some issues I am having with dp, apologies if it is a bit long.
Been with dp2 years and live with him and dd. I moved into his house a year after dd was born, stbxh (divorce not through yet), left me for ow.....But thats another story.
I tend to be a sahm but I do contribute to bills through my side work (a little make up business) which I do sometimes once or twice a fortnight.
Everything was going well at first but am starting to get the impression that dp is not all I thought he was and is starting to see me as a domestic skivvy.
On a few recent occasions he has returned from work and asked me what was for dinner which I didnt really think was very appropriate, so I told him and he just looked disappointed but said no more.
I don't mind sometimes cooking for him but I think the fact that he expects it is not a good sign.
Also, before he goes work (he is an early starter and needs to be at work for 8:00am) he has recently started expecting me to get up organize dd and take her to the nursery, even though he can go past it on the way to work if he takes a short detour.
I raised this with him the other night and tried to have a discussion but he just said to me quite aggressively "stop taking the piss she is your daughter not mine and I pay for the fucking nursery"
I explained to him that this wasn't really acceptable language as dd was in bed and may have heard.
I could have taken all of this as him being a little bit grumpy ( he often works 12 hour days) but I am starting to get very worried since last night stbxh called me to say he wanted to meet me to discuss a number of things and could we meet for a drink.
I thought this was important so I left dd with our neighbour for a couple of hours and asked her to drop dd back home at about ten past eight when dp would get home.
So whilst out having a drink I get a call from dp asking where I am because the neighbour has just dropped dd round and doesnt feel that this is very good. So I explained to him what I was doing and, well, I have never heard such foul language in my life he used the F word more times than I can remember and even used the C word!!!!!!
We havent spoken since and this morning I had to take dd to the nursery myself!
I dont think its unreasonable for me to expect some support from dp and for him to share in childcare. I think his use of aggressive language could be a massive red flag, since he said all of those things when dd was obviously in the house. I told a friend about it and she says this is part of a slippery slope and that I shouldnt accept this type of behaviour from anyone.
I am still fond of dp who has paid all the legal fees in my divorce and given me the money I needed to start up my business. I wonder whether this is behaviour that means I should be thinking of my escape plan??
What do fellow mumsnetters think about this? Opinions please..