Posted in Chat before, as I wanted it to disappear, but two weeks on I'm a bit better and would like honest opinions.
I split up with OH of 3 years before Christmas. There was an OW, who moved in as I moved out.
Due to the nature of both my job and his, our paths are inevitably going to cross, unless I considerably change my lifestyle and career path.
After moving out on the 13th of December, and subsequently finding out about OW I was in a bit of a mess. However, I picked myself up and began a freelance business related to what XOH and I did.
Two weeks ago I got a job that involved going onto a property that OH owned. In the interest of being a grown up, and also knowing that if OH chose he could have taken the job on himself I rang him and a) asked his permission to be on his property and b) explained to him what I'd be doing.
At this point I assumed I'd be dealing with a rational person. I was quite wrong. When I arrived on the property, before anyone could see me arrive he came across the yard, caught me by the hair and dragged me into a shed, where he fondled my breasts while watching out of the window in case anyone was watching.
I was asking him what he was doing, telling him to let me go, etc, but because he had been my best friend for 3 years I thought if I reasoned with him it would be ok. When he ascertained that there was nobody to see him, he dragged me by the hair into his house, pressed my face against the wall and told me to take my shoes off. I did, but kept saying, what are you doing, let go.
He then picked me up by the end of my plait and the back of my jeans, which hurt quite a lot, and carried me upstairs. He pinned me on the bed, and the whole time I was saying, get off, get off, and fighting, and wriggling. He had my fringe pinned to the bed, so my head was back, and was lying on my legs so couldn't move. He was trying to kiss me and to get his hands in my trousers, but didn't have enough hands to pin me down and get my clothes off. The whole time I was saying get off.
When he realised I was not giving in, several minutes later, he let me go and I ran out of the house.
There is no physical damage, no witnesses, it is my word against his. So shoulod I report?
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Dilemma - report to police or not.
findingmymarbles · 29/01/2013 23:14
Hey love. So sorry this happened to you. I just want to share my experiennce of the being believed stuff with you.
I was date raped a few months ago (got a whole thread on it) it took me a couple of days to report it and I found that while the police were sympatjetic and did checks on him, they weren't that interested because there was no evidence so it was my word against his and he worked for one of the 999 services and I'm a bit of a screw up so not much chance of a conviction.
Hopefully you'll have a better chance. I'll keep you in my thoughts xxx
Scuse typos. On phone and a bit voddied up 
Well done marbles. 
to you, and a big hug. xx too.
Crispy, that's dreadful. So sorry it happened to you, and hope the cops wake up xx
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