ok need to get some stuff off my chest. none of it is dramatic but its making me stressed so i would love your opinions on WTF is wrong with my dh.
had a sick dd on fri (she is a real daddies girl by the way) so i phoned dh to say i would wait for him to come home and i would try and put in a suppositry. so he walzes in from work fri eve - announces he is going to have his tea out with his brother and his kids - had a quick shower and out the door. hardly acknowledged that his dd was burning up or that i had the day from hell with her and her younger brother.
so i asked him to bring back pizza for our other two dc's and myself and he started saying 'ye dont want any pizza - havent ye already eaten'. this stupid conversation went on and on. in the end he said he would get it but he kept saying to me 'do ye want a full pizza' so i said yes a small pizza and he kept repeating himself 'do you want a full pizza'. it was like talking to a wall. i think he was waiting for me to say we would have a left over slices from their pizza at the restaurant.
i slept with dd fri nite to keep an eye on her temp - sat morning he came into the room at 8.30am - are you not getting up etc. I said no im tired have been up alot during the night with dd. he wasnt at all impressed.
same thing sunday morning are you not getting up - saying theres nothing wrong with asking you get up etc - just being such a sh*t - not giving a toss about me or that i was up two nights minding our dd.
also he kept going against me all weekend - telling me to wrap dd up in her duvet (she had a temp of 40degrees celcius) - really disagreeing with me - and saying that his father told him to keep her warm - his father never minded a child in his life. anyway he ended up calling me a bitch. its like he thinks his father is god and anything i say isn't worth listening to me - never mind that i have been a mother now for almost 15 years!!
sorry i know this all sounds very trivial but am very annnoyed and worried. he is just such a selfish pr*ck.
am especially concerned as he has form for being abusive and we seperated last year and are supposed to be back together as a trial. but of course he doesnt think its a trial period he thinks he has the feet back under the table and he seems to think he can do what he likes. dont want this to escalate back into previous behaviour.
also this is weird to me. we were in the pub with his dad a few weeks ago and his dad started saying that he was out for a walk that day and saw a tree with dh initials engraved in it - he was joking about it. i could see my dh nearly climb inside himself and he just said 'speaking of trees................' he started on and on about a tree that he wanted to cut up for firewood. it was very strange - like he couldn't bear his childhood to be mentioned. his father was an awful bully when they were growing up (mellowed with age) and it has obviously affected my dh is some way but i cant figure our why???????
i know im waffling am very tired and stressed............