Can i just have a round of applause please.

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Yesterday l let the exdh come in to DDs party, at my house, as he was picking her up later. I also invited his wife, who was the OW.

I deserve some kind of award for this, surely.

DD was so happy to have her dad there, ( he just came for the last 30 mins) and went off with them both, happy.

I dont like the woman, i never will. I dont have to be friends with her, but yeah, im pretty proud of myself.

very mature and generous of you - and what it is all about - putting your DDs needs and wants first where you're able to do so.

I think you deserve a

:) i do, and shall take that wine.

Didnt think id ever do something like that, but i know, even as an adult with divorced parents, who are both remarried, they cant even bare to have the other one mentioned and still insult them... its horrible. DD is 7, not something i want her to have for the rest of her life, you know.

So, yeah. :)
OW also text to ask if it was ok to call dd on her birthday, and i let her, dd was happy.

Well done! Your DD will think so well of you as she grows up if you can be civil with her Dad and encourage their relationship.

It must have been tough but you did a lovely thing for your DD.

X-post. My parents split up when I was very young (around 3) and had to always listen to Mum slagging off my Dad which was awful. Granted she had reason to be angry but no need to say it in front of a young child.

You sound like a wonderful Mum.

Oh yes watchout well done

You will always have the warm glow of having done the right thing and having been the bigger person.

Your daughter will thank you for it later I'm sure.... so much less stressful for her.

You go girl you do deserve a round of applause. Plus hopefully your niceness only hilights ows mean streak!!!!!!!!! X

Well done op

Well done!! Must have been hard but what a lovely example to set for your DD....her mum being the bigger person. Have some

Well done!! Must have been hard but what a lovely example to set for your DD....her mum being the bigger person. Have some

That is amazing, I am really impressed! You are a fantastic mum clearly and deserve lots of treats !!

it wasnt even hard tbh, we are a few years down the line...

but still, not many people do it, do they. So, im proud of myself.

( we also split for the second time when she was 3. the time before that was when she was 20 weeks, he really is an arse)

Well done

It's worth gritting your teeth and in time, it does get easier.

My xp married the OW and although the early years were hard, it has worked out fine. They have 2 DCs together now but she has always included my DS, as have her family. She came along to a couple of school events when he was in primary and he was just happy to have us all there.

You are doing the right thing.

Well done you!

Well done! I am seriously impressed

watchoutforthatsnail, a massive well done.

I hope that one day soon, I will be able to be big enough to do something similar, stilling feeling a little raw at times, but getting there.

I shall raise a glass of wine to you tonight.

:) thanks. Toddlers, you will be able to, Its knowing you are doing the right thing for you child.... small steps and all that... :)

Well done pet, you're a good Mum x

Well done, you should be so very proud of yourself.

Well done. Your a better woman than I would be in that situation.

Well done - it's a very hard thing to do.

What a lovely lady you are. I wasn't the ow but if dh ex had been like you I would have had a wonderful relationship with my stepchildren.