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Have I a right to be pissed off at him?

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TnBiscuits · 27/01/2013 08:47

My oh and I in the past year (actually more like 25mnths) gave had sex 4 times. It's driving me insane :( I've tried talking to him but he leaves the room and just does not see the problem. I've tried backing off, bein nice etc nothing makes a difference. I've found if I text him he normally replies and at least it makes his listen. Or so I thought!

Sorry this is getting long...

Back in October he promised me he'd try harder with me, nothing has changed... :( all in all he is a good person it's just the lack of sex , well for me is the main issue.

I sent him the following message recently.

Maybe we need a break from each other :( feel like we always argue, mostly my fault... Im so stressed with work at the moment.. I want our weekends to be something to look forward to not dread.... I'm not sure how you feel anymore.. It's been so long since we were close, over 3 mnths ago you said you'd try harder. I'm sorry and feel so bad for saying this but I don't see any difference... :( :( :( just don't know what to do or say anymore cos I only seem to make it worse :(

I got no reply.. So 2 days later I asked him why he hadn't responded or mentioned it.. He said " because its stupid " and he walked off.... :( I'm so angry that he's brushed aside my feelings.... I just don't know where to go from here anymore... I don't want to leave him.. I just want to talk to him :( :(

OP posts:
TnBiscuits · 27/01/2013 08:48

Meant to say 15 mnths not 25... Stupid phone!!

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 27/01/2013 11:40

How long have you been together? Do you have children? Is he at an age or physical condition where sex might be a challenge? Sex aside, are you generally affectionate with each other or has all that disappeared with the constant arguing?

SundaysGirl · 27/01/2013 11:48

I think it's very disrespectful to ignore something like the text you sent and then to describe it as 'stupid'. Sad

Is he like this about discussing all emotional matters or things which are uncomfortable for him? Or just this issue?

SundaysGirl · 27/01/2013 11:56

Oh and yea you do have a right to be! I'd be furious.

VoiceofUnreason · 27/01/2013 11:58

If he can't communicate and you have to resort to texting him, I'd say your marriage is in very serious trouble.

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