Just received a text off my sis, she needs advice, i didn't know what to reply, can mn help?

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Right a bit urgh but my sister has texted me to say that she keeps catching/finding her dp masturbating and it's upsetting her and what would I think or do if it was my Dh and I really don't know.
What should I say to her?
She's always been t.m.i. on matters like this
I'm never going to be able to forget this now, much brain bleach needed, but does anyone have any advice I can give her?

Not very helpful iron horse.

maybe tell her that the first person to discuss this with is her DP and the second is an anonymous internet forum where she can get a range of advice but that you don't know what to say to her.

She doesn't use computers, a bit of a technophobe.
She asks me for advice on everything, but I'm really stumped this time.

Is she pissed off that he's not being private about it/doing it in inappropriate places/she would like to have sex and he'd prefer a wank?

I think most people do it, but if it's to the detriment of the couples sex life or it's reflecting bigger issues in the marriage then they need to have a chat.

It depends on the circumstances. Most people masturbate. Is he being particularly exhibitionist about it? Inappropriate timing/location? Using porn? Really a woman should be able to talk to the man she's married to about sexual matters without having to text her sister... Is she very young or something?

"FFS DP, lock the fecking door"
Ought to suffice

Is he masturbating in addition to a sex life with which she is happy? In which case, it's a sensible solution to unequal libido and "do that in private" is a good response.

But if it is instead of an agreeable sex life, or involves props she finds unacceptable, then it's a rather different issue.

Depends on what kind of rapport they have without each other but I'd probably screech at my DH to 'can you at least wait until I am out of the fucking house'.

I wouldn't like to keep catching him at it either so she has my sympathies. Can't be nice going to put some washing away and find your dh bashing one out on the bed.