I posted the other week about DD and her P, caravan incident, road trip and me worrying. (On iPod, otherwise I would do linky)
I thought (stupidly) on Monday that she had got the strength to get her to quit the relationship. She told me that she was no longer going out with him but she left him a dangling carrot of if he gets himself sorted that they will get back together. Not the best idea but at the time I thought better than nothing.
However, the split is not a split, she has continued to text him at the same level as before, he has come visiting to talk ( he is banned from my house) and parked down the road, tonight she has gone to him to spend the night.
I don't know how I can help her see that this relationship is not a good one, that the violence (not directly to her) he has shown will escalate, he will isolate her from her friends and family ( he is already showing signs of it).
I am so upset, worried and frustrated. I watched my mother being smacked from one end if the room to another, I have been smacked around and now it seems that I have to watch my own child. I want the violence to end, I feel useless.
Someone please give me some help, how the hell do I stop history repeating?