Moved but not happy after a year should i go?

[chocegg]

Dont know what to do, its not a relationship problem as such but dont know how long i should give this situation...

Moved house, different part of the country. Had some silly idea that it would be great but since we moved feels like nothing has gone right. I can honestly say i havent made any friends in the year i have been away and i feel lonely.

I didnt want to live where i came from as its near a big city and wanted a more country life for the kids to grow up in but just not settled :(

I go to groups and get out and about and my daughter has started school...

So can you just up-sticks whenever you like? Don't you have to think about things like jobs? Do you have a partner who has a job?

Assuming that moving is feasible, I wouldn't stick it out all that long. It does take a while, but once you stay long enough to put down roots you might still be unhappy there, only less easy to move.

We made a major move when dc were small. It took a lot of getting used to, put a lot of strain on our marriage. I've never really been happy here. It's been nearly a decade and I have friends, good friends, now, but now we are separated and moving is out of the question as this place is home for dc and they love it here. I feel very stuck and rootless.

If I could turn the clock back I wouldn't have stuck it out, I would have gone back where we'd come from. But hindsight is a wonderful thing. I know it took me longer than a year to make the wonderful friends I have here.

If it's only about friendships, a year isn't long. But if you just don't feel at home, don't like the atmosphere, the lifestyle, that's a bigger problem.

Thanks for replying, apart from schools yes we could move. My dd started recpetion but we rent a house as havent brought yet. My husband still lives where we came from as he hoped to get a job here but hasnt yet so we live half the week apart :(

Just feel nothing has gone right, it is about friends i suppose and i really miss my old ones and just cant seem to connect to anyone here.

Like the place and the countryside surrounding but it isnt as nice a place as i believed it to be before we moved (moved for the kids to live somewhere nicer) as found quite a few dodgy areas etc which was an eye opener and feel there is a wealth divide, either lots with money or without so not many in between. Just had crap times meeting people, i.e met someone got on really well and arranged a second meet with my dd and she just didnt turn up. Also someone elses house getting on great and then her husband suddenly turned into an agressive arse with her... school its clicky and i am not in a click (they all work and i dont as i have a baby too), silly things like parenting none of them use the lights when crossing the road dodgin the traffic etc and my old friends and i would never do that as we are helicoper parents so to speak..

Keep thinking stick in there but i would have though after a year i would be feeling at home?